I completely stopped caring about 2 years ago, I realized I was never going to do anything with my good look and that I will never get into a relationship in my life, so I just figured out “what’s the point then, I’m already invisible for the women?” And I don’t care about my health tbh…
Since I don’t have kids or my own family I could just disappear and nothing would happen. No, I’m not taking extreme stuff to end my life, I just stopped caring and now eat a lot and drink.
If I’m going to be alone and feeling sad, at least let me eat something good. Still, I’m just 100 KG at 34 years old right now, just skinny fat… For now.
I stopped caring about my health and exercise 12 years ago. It was a mistake.
I’m now 40 and it’s hard to go back to it. I am trying but the body isn’t as it used to be.
No it’s not. I’m going to be 40 in a few months. A job with lots of movement helps me a lot. Then I go dancing once a week. I need to do more. But I feel fine, I’m not fat and I can still play with the kids
My job does not involve any movement at all. So 8 hours a day I’m just sitting down.
I try to incorporate an hour to the gym a day. Jogging and running is pretty hard and I cannot do more than 30 seconds. But I am trying.
2023 was a bad year for me. Countless respiratory infections really took a toll on me.
Can you get a standing desk? Or one of those sitting balls?
Standing desk might be difficult.
How does the sitting ball help?
Sitting ball is great for core strength. You balance on it all day and have to keep your back straight. Really works.
Your mistake is that you started caring again. That’ll get you every time.
Please get help in having a more positive lookout to life. Be it therapy, a new and (hopefully) fulfilling hobby, philosophy, anything. And, on the other side of the same problem: try getting rid of habits that make you unhappy. Otherwise you are going to spiral downward.
Not what I’ve asked.
I’m sad that you were made to think this way. That you don’t consider yourself important enough to care about yourself. You never need to “look good for others”. Fuck that BS. I’m going to be 40 this year. These last few years I’ve been really experimenting with my looks. Never standing still, never stopping. You’re not a painting to be put in a frame and stand still. You’re a living, feeling being. Take care
Exactly. Look good for yourself not for others.
But even uf you dont care about your looks, working out is really good for physical and mental health
Already said it, I really don’t care if I die young.
Health does not just mean having a long lifespan. It is about enjoying the lifetime you get.
Life is much more enjoyable with a healthy body and mind.
No, I’m not free. And I’m not important in this world, majority isn’t. And I don’t have kids or a wife. If I disappear in the grand scheme of things, nothing really valuable has been lost.
Is complete bullshit that we’re equal or that we all have the same “value”.
You got sold on the capitalist rat race, friend. It’s not a competition. There’s so much stuff you could do that you haven’t even considered that’s way better than the stuff you’re thinking on. Stow away on a ship, climb a mountain, build a birdhouse, grow a garden, create a lascivious interpretive dance that you do in the town square until they throw you in the nuthouse now you need to charm the doctors to get out.
Think outside the box before you spend so much time thinking you’re not good enough for some random criteria.
I’m not going to do any of that.
I hope your outlook changes and you find peace and happiness my friend
You can eat well and not gain weight.
Anyways if you want to give up at thirty-four it’s your choice but life hasn’t even started.
Bullshit. The last part.
How much experience do you have being thirty-five?
Was pretty much the other way round for me, realized around age 25 or so that I’d spend the later part of my life feeling like shit with constant back problems if I didn’t get out more. So these days I make a point of getting out on my bike or going on longer walks at least a couple times a week. Not for looks or women, but for myself.
Halfway through that first Presidential Fitness Test back in elementary school.
You and me both.
Not too many years after that nightmare, I was perfectly capable of enjoying thru-hiking, carrrying exactly same weight anyone else would have been, moving at same speed on rough terrain, etc. Still couldn’t run a mile - or much shorter distances - in my wildest dreams. Didn’t matter, I was in exactly the shape I wanted to be in, for the things I cared about.
Can’t do it anymore, my body widely conspired against me in various ways, but glad I was capable of it and have the memories. If I had been able to run a mile, but not hike any distance with weight, I’d be alot less happy about what I had achieved at that point.
Age 12
I stopped caring in college after getting sick of athletic injuries. Luckily a few years later I got back into it. It doubles as my audiobook time. I mostly do steady state, and stretch regularly
I feel better throughout the day, have more energy than peers, and it gives me the enjoyment of movement
It helps me manage my adhd
Well this was certainly a nice pity party.
I know you don’t care, but I was in the same position as you. I gave up and tried to drown myself in food and alcohol.
Things can change. Even if you are 100% sure right now that they won’t. When they changed for me, my mind and body already had irreparable damage. My memory suffered from the alcohol, my body will forever look ugly from the rapid weight gain. No amount of working out can fix that.
What I am trying to say is: Even if you don’t believe in it, your attitude can change. Just like that, from one day to the next. Then you will regret your choices, but the damage is already done. Remember that.
ITT: OP has not discovered the name for this feeling is “depression”.
A lot of us are rooting for you OP, even if you don’t want to hear it.
You’re right. I don’t want to.
