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Cake day: September 26th, 2023

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  • I’ve never heard them be interchangeable. Grew up in the NE US, PA, NY, FL, and MA.

    I’ve spent most of the last twenty years in the Midwest, and can’t think of a single example.

    The outlier would be very, very careful instructions - likely written - organized in an if/then fashion which is a totally different use case:

    • Where the coffee machine is empty and the old filter abd grounds have been removed…
    • Where the coffee machine is empty but the used filter and grounds are still present… (add step to deal with that case)
    • Where the moron before you forgot to turn off the burner after emptying the carafe…

    “Since” wouldn’t fit, at least without changing the instructions after the ellipsis.

    And of course the classic example: “since you are up, get me a beer…” also doesn’t really work. (Apologies to some long irrelevant redneck comedian for ripping that off to make a point).

    I’m trying in my head to make it fit in both casual and formal conversation, and it just won’t as far as I can tell.

    Would love a counterfactual where both work!


  • You and me both.

    Not too many years after that nightmare, I was perfectly capable of enjoying thru-hiking, carrrying exactly same weight anyone else would have been, moving at same speed on rough terrain, etc. Still couldn’t run a mile - or much shorter distances - in my wildest dreams. Didn’t matter, I was in exactly the shape I wanted to be in, for the things I cared about.

    Can’t do it anymore, my body widely conspired against me in various ways, but glad I was capable of it and have the memories. If I had been able to run a mile, but not hike any distance with weight, I’d be alot less happy about what I had achieved at that point.







  • Think he didn’t really have much of a choice given his public comments, and the fact that to lay folks those comments were credible because he has the resources to follow through.

    If I posted “BRB, buying Twitter and taking it private,” it would be a joke. But coming from someone who already has a crazy amount of money, positions in companies, etc., and who knows or should know the ins and outs of securities law…

    That was an ill fated statement that he should never have made and probably expected to be taken as a joke. Don’t think he expected the Twitter board to take the chance to cash out and call it good, either.

    For someone with that level of impaired judgement to be running companies…. Jeez, how do I pull that off? I can rant publicly, I just don’t know the magic incantations that being in billions.

    Hope that MFer gets meme stocked, shorted, and pump and dumped. As we’ve seen again and again, it doesn’t take all that much to do those things.

    Am abs against the meme stock crowd, they are straight up bad actors, but might be able to do some good here.



  • This isn’t what gets me into a dispensary a second time.

    Feeling like I can ask a dumbass question, get a coherent answer, and they will have product in stock at the promised price; gets me in the second and subsequent times.

    Hypothetically, of course, but no different from the local booze warehouse, really. My loyalty is to the place where I asked someone “I see you’re out of x, what’s similar?” And they a) tapped out because it wasn’t their area of expertise and b) connected me with the person who could provide options and talk about that particular niche ad infinitum.

    Don’t be flashy if you run a dispensary, just know your stuff and educate your staff.




  • Can you even do that anymore?

    I’m mid-forties, and that was what you did circa 99, and I was taught how to do it.

    But I can’t imagine a manager today wanting to deal with paper resume and walk-in application.

    (Also, if I hand you my resume, it means I’m going to skip the job history fields on the application. I hope manager can read and critically think enough to notice the resume and get that concept. Otherwise, I don’t want to work for you.


  • That source is garbage.

    Seems to be based on what amounts to a single “does not currently appear that the procedure itself killed him” statement from MGH, which is generally respected.

    I will wait for the actual journal article that (I sincerely hope) is yet to come.

    Five years, and an additional two months following consent from a highly experimental and unique procedure that he appears to have given informed consent for because he would otherwise have died sooner beats the hell out of five years without the two months.

    I could make a hell of a lot of amends in sixty days, knowing it was all I had, that I’ve had trouble making in four plus decades…. Which would make the end exponentially more peaceful and pleasant.

    Anything that gives me that much time is a net positive. Not going to bother with some of the usual surgical recovery stuff if I am fully informed at that point but… Don’t want to die wishing I had had time to make that one phone call or txt that I didn’t quite get to make because we don’t get to choose the moment.

    Ten yrs from now hewill be a hero for undergoing the procedure that leads to real progress.




  • My company has a campus there (among several other places) and I’ve abs ruled out any chance of landing there. Not just because screw you, I am more effective WFH, not less, but because the highly vocal haters populating the area make me look like an asshole just for living there.

    I’m also particularly sensitive to heat, but car ac is a thing. I just can’t justify supporting and effectively representing TX. Not a lot of good ways to state that I’m an ally of anyone misunderstood or whose rights have been trampled, while living in a state that consistently makes news for the exact opposite.

    Not worried about colleagues who know me, but if I want to make a move into a new position - internal or external - and the hiring mgr or hr rep is e.g., my friend who went through NB and landed on male, whose decision I respect, how the hell can I possibly claim to support them or any other group, if I’m daily buying gas and food in TX?


  • Respect for staying and staying strong. That devolution has been rapid and concerning.

    You sticking around encourages every person (disclosed or otherwise) in any of those groups to stay, and eventually force that SOB running your state out.

    My partner is a huge Disney fan, and I see behind the magic and respect everything they do to hide the actual mechanics of it all. It pains us that we can’t get on a WN flight to MCO because we refuse to spend money (that we are aware of) in states behaving that way generally.

    We miss Nashville, too, as well as a place between Nashville and Orlando that sells stuff people failed to “claim” for cheap.

    But I’m not buying gas in GA or FL, much less anything else, in the current environment.

    Miami once was a haven and a melting pot, and I personally welcome everyone to this country. But… current state of affairs.

    I couldn’t do it, we are both straight and a conventional married couple (mosly, aside from things that are no one’s biz). We fled a Midwest state because, among other things, we got tired of defending that WE wore masks/used hand sanitizer over a period of years.

    Fuck those people, we are not hurting them by vexing cautious. Turns out (it seems, per current research) we were right.

    The diesel bros are slowly feeling the long term results.


  • I carry a bunch of pride for all of my favorite places I’ve lived in (I was easily bored in my early 20s), but…

    Jersey?

    Kidding, ofc, friend.

    Lived up and down the east coast along the way, including places whose current inhabitants I would not want to publicly associate myself with.

    South Central PA wasn’t per se “appealing,” but it was home for many years so I get it. Neither good nor bad, just home, but easily judged.

    I still smile a lil when I happen to cross US 30 and notice it, so I get it. Feels like I “could” make that turn and be “home”

    OC, MD was “the” vacation dest growing up so…. I have very little affinity for Jersey. A few years working for a guy who was proudly “from JC” (sorta) and a giant dick didn’t help my perspective, to be honest.


  • Call it Champaign-Urbana.

    I am juuuust outside the MSA, without doxxing myself too badly.

    Chicago is accessible, if I plan around a few hrs drive or an Amtrak that’s not crazy far.

    We are collectively mostly left-leaning though the UIUC students prob skew that to some degree. We landed here because it was a reasonably affordable place, close enough to something else to be feasible for holidays, and also close enough to a major ish city that not WFH would be on the table, maybe.

    Got here via south central PA, New England, and marrying a girl from Kettlecorn, KS who missed the flatlands.

    I miss the mountains, but I’m also sane and honest with myself - the local bouldering place is as close as I’m getting to a mountain, at my age.

    That makes me sad, having hiked up plenty of mountains back before I fell off the “fitness cliff”…