I guess it’s another way of asking, “What event in your life had to most effective impact?”
Start of the war between Russia and Ukraine.
Now I have to worry every day that people I know (who have not managed to escape Ukraine) will either get killed by a Russian rocket or will get kidnapped from the streets by Ukrainian “recruitment officers”.
a doma induced deportation of my life partner 12 years ago.
it was a life altering even that turned me from a liberal into a leftist.
Police brutality and false charges by Pinellas County Sheriff’s department at 16yrld.
Or
The murder of my best friend 20 yrs later by the Pinellas County Sheriff’s department by withholding medical treatment, and then not contacting ANYONE until he had been in an unresponsive coma for FOUR FUCKING DAYS. He died of infection to his brain never waking up since falling into the coma in his cell, a booking/holding cell at that.
Yeah.
My parents’ divorce. I was 20 when it started, but still living at home. I was dragged through the middle of the very messy and drawn-out divorce proceedings, and unfortunately, my dad did not survive to hear the final judgement. The silver lining I guess was these two events gave me a solid kick in the pants to start acting like an adult. I went to counseling, then college, then an actual professional career.
While I am now in the best position in my life that I’ve ever been in, the catalyst to me getting here was terrible. 0/10, would strongly advise alternate means.
Starting my first proper career in 2008. Or becoming a parent in 2011.
In 2013 I left a very toxic, abusive relationship (physically, emotionally, sexually).
I’m healthy now but its been a long journey to get here. I have definitely changed as have my life. Its a big milestone that I rarely have to think about now as its been so long. But the lingering effects of trauma went on for years before I considered myself “recovered”
Birth of my first child. It wasn’t just life-changing because “now I’m a father” and such but he had heart disease and the first few months were really rough. It doubly reinforced that my time of being a big kid is over and I have to be an actual adult because lives can easily be ruined or lost by passing the buck and letting other people make my decisions for me.
Getting an Apprenticeship and starting an IT career probably.
Covid
Probably learning audio production and synthesis. Now my misery has an outlet.