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I inherently detest the concept of a “beauty standard”. Something so subjective to each individual experience as “beauty” shouldn’t have a standard, and a mentality or social culture that tries to establish or reinforce them is something I believe to be highly problematic.
Like in this very post, all the people who are admonishing body modification (injections, implants, piercings, tattoos, etc…). That has been a thing humans have done since ancient times. It is just a form of personal expression, there is nothing inherently wrong with the practice itself. It is the social expectations that makes those things appear uncomfortable at first glance instead of just a different but equally valid form of personal expression. A lot of the comments around them are very judgmental of the assumed reasons behind doing it, though, and it is because of societal “beauty standards” that people behave and think this way.
Mowed lawns. Just let it grow, it’s easier and healthier.
This is literal and an innuendo.
Filler and injections.
When they’re done badly, it’s very noticeable and terrible. When they aren’t done, it’s fine. Not everybody is looking for curves and puffy lips. Presumably, there’s a bunch of successful injections you never notice, but on the balance that’s not a very good record.
Tabs over spaces, always
… wait, you’re asking in asklemmy, not programming…
Uhhh… that thing where people glue little strands of hair to their forehead in an arc
I am more into spaces, but as long as the indentation is done consistently i can tolerate tabs.
I mean, how could using tabs not be consistent when only comparing to spaces? Seems to me like spaces give infinitely more opportunity to fuck up indentation.
Not everyone is beautiful. Most people are average and many are not attractive.
Obesity is not beautiful. It is unhealthy and honestly delusional.
Edit: Most people are thinking of this when mentioning obesity.
https://duckduckgo.com/?q=real+obese+people+&t=h_&iar=images
Not this.
https://duckduckgo.com/?q=heavy+rugby+players&t=fpas&iar=images
Complaining about the BMI scale is a disservice to those who truly need to lose weight for their health.
The whole fat acceptance movement is honestly gross AF.
I don’t care how happy you are about it. This shit is not healthy and we shouldn’t be promoting it.
Says fat people promote unhealthy lifestyles. Gif: An obese chick getting exercise while playing an instrument that takes considerable muscle control and a high lung capacity.
Damn. Lot of people really hate fat folks. I’m just saying you want to prove fat people are unhealthy— a woman in a career that takes a high level of stamina and discipline isn’t a great example.
Yeah that’s a terrible example of an unhealthy fat person, she is an outlier for sure, was so overweight and could run and sing at the same time! I’m sure it’s harder on your joints and all but if someone can out-dance you, while singing loud, she is in better cardiovascular shape than you.
My brother is obese and also one of the fittest people I know. He can walk miles without breaking a sweat, no high blood pressure, no high cholesterol, heart is doing fine, no arthritis, etc. ad nauseum. He’s fat because he eats a lot, but everything he eats is home cooked with plenty of veg and little meat. He just loves cooking.
My doc said the other day she prefers it when her patients are heavier, because when people get very sick, it’s the “healthy” thin ones who die first in the ICU purely because they don’t have any fat to spare.
As to your second point, I have a personal hypothesis that cancer is the reason for the middle-aged gut. Hell, guess it could be disease in general. Anyway, with a few extra pounds you have more time to fight.
My favorite people, and probably yours too are not 10/10 hotties. The people I want to spend time with are funny and kind.
Chasing ‘beauty standards’, I feel, is a waste of your human potential. That time can be better used building friendships and community. Isn’t that what most people really want?
If people focused their time there instead, maybe they would feel more accepted, confident and worthy instead of trying to shortcut their way to perceived success by altering their bodies. I find it sad that the digital age has pushed humanity so deeply in to ‘comparative society’.
Confidence is the hottest most attractive thing to me in the end.
It can go too far in the opposite direction, though. I was raised in an environment where men doing literally anything besides showering a bit was gay.
Arguably, being muscular is a male beauty standard. I would very much prefer it if men had more freedom of expression, though.
I like how the standard has fractured and there isn’t really a standard now, but I do also kind of like the obviously fake bodies being the standard because an insistence on natural beauty is more oppressive than the idea of beauty as something you do, an art or achievement, even a purchase.
If beauty like that is something you choose, I am free to choose it or not. If it’s just by luck of birth, that sucks so bad. When I was a gawky tall stick insect of a teenager and the only girls considered pretty were the short and stacked, there was no way to meet that standard.
Later the tide shifted but as I didn’t grow up feeling my body could ever be mainstream sexy, I didn’t get attached to that - I do have hangups but they are my own. I just try to stay in shape, have good hair, take care of my skin and let the rest be.
But I think my unpopular opinion is beauty as something you do - makeup, style, fitness, is more democratic than insistence on symmetry of features or a particular height or build, the idea of “natural beauty” is worse. Beauty should be a choice, a hobby, a project, do or not.
In terms of what I do not currently understand, it’s the moustaches. Young men with weedy little moustaches, straight men with moustaches that scream gay to me, the unopposed highway patrol/1980s gay man moustache I can’t wait for that trend to pass.
Not a beauty standard per se, but I don’t like tattoos one bit.
It used to be “rebellious” to have a tattoo, but nowadays it seems like everyone has one - so maybe the truly rebellious thing now is not having them.
I don’t think tattoos have been about rebellion in a long time. It’s just art for your body.
It was always just art for your body.
People who got tattoos wanted to be able to express themselves in the way they desired, by decorating their body with artwork, and didn’t appreciate having their decision dictated by arbitrary standards that they did not agree to. They weren’t doing it for the sake of rebellion, it was just called rebellion because it went against the social expectations of the time.
People often do not understand the reason behind the act of rebellion and attribute those engaging in the activities as being done for the sake of rebellion itself instead of some deeper cause.
Depends on your background. If you’re from a Jewish or Muslim family pearls will be clutched.
I’ve always disliked plastic surgery, botox and heavy makeup. But that’s normal enough
My real hot take is I am disgusted by long, fake nails. They make my skin crawl. They’re so cumbersome, I truly don’t understand how people love with them
Edit: Thread is locked; it somewhat spiraled from what I originally envisioned for the discussion. Just wanted to dump by thoughts in this edit.
I created the thread from a perspective more of pointing out things people do to their bodies in the name of “fashion” or “beauty” that are invasive, cumbersome, or unnecessary, when people should be proud of the bodies they have. Some took this in the same light but others didn’t.
I would have liked to have a whole discussion about it, communicate my perspective a little more clearly, but by the time I came back after work to view the monster I’d created, the thread was locked. It’s a shame that we couldn’t have a more mature and nuanced discussion about what it means to follow a beauty trend to everyone, but I suppose it’s better that rhetoric not escalate
welcome to the evening news, man creates thread so he can bitch about Black women. more at 5 when he phones back in to say how he’s entitled to his opinion.
wow holy racist batman
The racist is the one bitching about long nails, a predominant standard of beauty in black culture, and how much it makes them uncomfortable.
Like, no one needs to hear your judgement of someone else’s choice of personal expression. Ever heard the phrase “ain’t got nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all”? This is where that applies.
Long nails are a thing with women of all races. I wouldn’t call it predominantly black. I’d call it predominantly tacky.
Beards. I never understood why some women find it so sexy. But I am okay with people having different tastes. What is icky is that some women have made such a huge deal about them that it gets borderline unfair for men who don’t want to bother with grooming or those who cannot grow a full beard.
What is icky is that some women have made such a huge deal about them that it gets borderline unfair for men who don’t want to bother with grooming or those who cannot grow a full beard.
TIL that’s a thing. Beard culture mostly feels like men competing against and/or encouraging other men. And old ladies are pretty direct about fucking hating them.
Pure white teeth. I prefer ivory shades- not yellow, just the natural ivory. I’ve had salespeople approach me offering teeth whitening products and it terrifies me.
Overalls. Can’t handle em
How are overalls beauty standard 🤣🤣🤣
Edit: Also, I think Karen Allen wore overalls at least once in Indiana Jones. Kinda hot, in an unpolished way.
Those are coveralls. Or a jumpsuit, depending.
These are overalls:
Long hair.
Shorter is better.
Do-ups and buns and things are nice, too. The history of using them for modesty tells me that’s a minority opinion.
No I get it. Hair that’s put up in a messy way, so that there’s a few stray strands that fall along the face and neck… Strangely hot.
I agree. Then again, I’m a certified lesbian.
Where can one get certified? Asking for a friend.
thanks to all the men in the comments providing women with a free incel blocklist. your opinion may be useless, but at least no one appreciates you.
God forbid that people have opinions… Life could be fun, but we don’t want that! Seriously, your only reason for existence on social media seems to make other people’s day worse. That is miserable.
aww thank you. you just made my day hearing I make incels miserable. i hope you stay that way
Lol you’re catching some votes but we’ve strayed from what OP was asking.
OP asking about beauty standards and people are straight up saying shit like “overalls” and “big boobs”.
Not bad opinions on their own but far from beauty standards
Big boobs are absolutely a common beauty standard. That’s why breast enlargement surgery exists. Overalls are not, however.
