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  • First LGBTQ people are still people they don’t have a monolithic view of the world.

    Trans people usually do think gender is an important thing, that’s why they transition. And for people who do think gender is a social construct (both lgbtq and not) why would they care if someone wants to change it, it doesn’t matter anyway.

    The point is in acceptance. You want to be perceived in a different role? Sure there you go.

    It doesn’t matter, it’s all bs. But for many people it’s hard to exist without a script to play. If someone feels more comfortable playing a different role who am I to say no









  • To everyone downvoting: Stop downvoting well meaning questions because you think anyone using that word must be about taking a side in American politics.

    There will always be people resistant to change. They should have a space to share their doubts in a healthy way without falling into the toxic sludge of “Conservativism” (which is often radically revolutionary btw)

    And to answer the question: Your best bet is a mainstream instance, and not subscribing to anything related to politics. You won’t escape it completely, and you can’t avoid having your ideas challenged. But you can avoid name-calling and hostility related to election campaigns.





  • I don’t know if this counts since I was never the women hating type, but for a long time I suffered because I couldn’t figure out a way to have a girlfriend.

    How I dealt with it? Understanding myself, mechanisms of social pressure, and the wrong motives I had for wanting to have a girlfriend.

    It was always about proving something to others, rather than actually finding a life partner. Everyone around me constantly pestered me to find a gf, friends, family … All the media celebrates certain kinds of romantic relationships. I thought I’m worthless if I don’t do it as well.

    Changing that mindset transformed me - I don’t have to put myself in situations I’m uncomfortable with, and I don’t have to pursue types of relationships defined by others.



  • He’s good at providing hope. False hope, but that’s hard to admit if all other candidates seem hopeless.

    Especially for the blue collar working class and the rural poor who were forgotten by Republicans, actively hated on by Democrats. Also pretty much disenfranchised by the winner takes all electoral system.

    He didn’t manage to destroy the country in the first term due to the constant opposition from Democrats. That not obvious at first sight. If you were completely new to US politics he’d just seem loud and vaguely innefective.