M. 34. Unfortunately I will never get companionship, never being with a woman, so that means no kids, until recently i was doing a miserable job, now I’m unemployed. I don’t have friends and still living with my family since I can’t survive alone, we’re low class…
Seriously, what’s the point? Please don’t tell me to just live and go out there and explore the world, to leave everything behind, that’s not possible. I always despised “exploring” that’s why I stay in my room most of the time, even when I had a job. But I know how some of you will respond…
I guess there’s no point. Someone had to lose this fucking game.
You are here every week posting this exact same shit. People have tried to help you and give you real advice. You don’t want help, you want attention. The Internet isn’t your therapist and you don’t want to listen anyways. Stop wasting everyone’s time.
Oh man, I didn’t know that there was a whole history of repeating the same posts. I hope some passerby who relates to the post can gain from the outpouring of advice etc here
But they don’t want a therapist. And they don’t want advice. So I guess they just want the attention. Or pity. Hard to tell which.
I think it’s pity
Are they deleting their old posts?
They also seem to be full of shit, considering in one breath they say they’ve never been with a woman but also just recently commented they isolated and drank after a breakup in another thread.
Very weird.
No. The last one about giving up losing weight is still up and the ai girlfriend one as well.
Nope, they are all still there. “When did you stop caring about how you look”, “summer is the worst season”, “what does it feel like to be with a woman”. Dude is depressed, depressing, creepy, and doesn’t want help - he just wants attention.
This is likely the third time I’ve seen this dude posting “woe is me” here, getting amazing great advice to see a therapist, and completely fucking ignores it.
OP go see a fucking therapist.
I still like to think I’m there for him if he needs someone. It doesn’t feel like myself to be dismissive like that.
Don’t post this again until you’ve done something to listen to the people around you.
Thanks for the heads up so I know to block them!
You can be happy without a woman and without kids. As it turns out, it usually works best to be happy by yourself first, if companionship is what you want. Learn to love yourself before loving others. Keep trying.
That’s the best I could do, hope it helps. Good luck to you.
You can be happy without a woman and without kids.
I mean, just ask any gay guy.
I will never love myself.
Never is a long time m8. With those kinds of thoughts, I think you need professional help. My wife has dealt with similar things and getting therapy and medication really helped.
At the end of the day, your brain is just chemistry and sometimes the chemistry is just doing bad stuff. Go to therapy and get some medication. It will help, really.
The level of bullshit coming out of your mouth will not be fixed by platitudes like “love yourself”. You need medication.
I don’t like overdramatic depressed people so I’m not going to discuss this with you, I’m just giving this advice and dipping.
Ignore what everyone else says. It’s useless advice. Talk to a doc and get the right drugs. You may never love yourself, but we have wonderful pills that will change who you are. That person will love himself. Whatever sad creature you are now won’t exist anymore.
You don’t know they’re diagnosis. So you have no idea if they need medication or not.
Help yes. But, not all mental health disorders have a root cause that can be treated with medication. For instance, depression is comorbid in PTSD and CPTSD, which we don’t really have medication that helps great with aside from adrenaline blockers to help you sleep if you get nightmares .
My point is, telling people they need medication when you’re not a psychiatrist, and even if you are psychiatrist, you’ve never talked to them or diagnosed them, is not helpful.
Responding in such a harsh and dismissive way to someone who may be struggling with their mental health is really not okay. Calling their feelings “bullshit” and “overdramatic” is incredibly invalidating.
I know you meant well but the overall tone here is way too critical and potentially damaging to someone in a vulnerable state.
They didn’t mean well. You’re giving them way too much credit
Platitudes won’t help…but surely being an asshole to them will, right? Just shut the fuck up if you that’s the only “advice” you can muster.
Life sucks. But it can change a lot in a year if you try.
What’s the point of living for anyone? There’s no point. Life is what you make out of it. If one keeps doing the same things day after day then that’s an indication they don’t want things to change. How could they change? Accepting things as they are and just sitting at home being miserable is a guranteed way to stay miserable.
You can’t see a future for you, but there is one. You know well a few things that you don’t like, so that’s definitely not something to pursue. Somehow or other, you’ll have to find out what you do like. It’s probably something you assume you don’t like, but haven’t tried yet. Or something you have never even seen a video of to realize it’s a thing that can be done.
You seem very stuck on being low class with no opportunities, is that a cultural thing from where you are?
I’m sorry you feel stuck right now. I know you don’t want to hear this, but if you want to achieve your dream of a family you are going to need another job and therapy. Even if the women of your dreams showed up ready to get pregnant right now, you’re not ready. Do you really want to raise kids who know daddy hates himself? Do you really want your family to deal with your emotional spillover? Teaching kids emotional regulation is HARD and damn near impossible if you are struggling yourself.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a family. That is a fine goal and a perfect thing to look forward to. Many poeple are starting families later just bc of the cost of living, so I don’t think you will be too old even if it takes you another five years to get there.
There is someone out there for everyone. Maybe she can make all the money and you can be a stay at home dad! But you gotta get up, flip off the fucking world, and get a job and start putting together a social life of poeple who care about you. Stay safe and remember you are valuable and worthy of self love.
I’m sorry but that’s not possible.
why not?
Find a purpose that motivates you. For some people that is exploring, for others it is expressing themselves creatively, or helping people, or fighting for a cause you believe in, or trying to make the perfect baked potato.
I don’t know your specific limitations. Perhaps there is motivation in overcoming them, or helping others so they won’t have them too?
You were a little sparse with details, and I trust you have your reasons. Depending on this situation this advice could be pretty insensitive. My goal is not to offend or upset. I hope I haven’t.
First of all, I agree with many of the commenters that you should ask a professional for help. There could be some free sources in your area, but we can’t help you further without knowing additional details. Many professionals do pro bono.
I also noticed your interest in AI companions given a previous thread you made, which can be a sensitive topic. I want to emphasize that AI companions should be approached with caution, especially for individuals who may be vulnerable like yourself. However, if you’re genuinely interested in exploring this, you could consider programming an AI companion with the goal of helping you achieve happiness. Through interactions with the AI, you may gain a deeper understanding of yourself and your needs. I advise against proprietary AI apps since they will prey on your vulnerability, not to mention that you may not have the money to keep subscribing in the first place. I would also suggest that you use an AI companion in conjunction with therapy sessions. Use your therapist’s guidance to inform your interactions with the AI, which can help you gradually open up to new opportunities.
You can explore stuff without leaving your room.
Ex, The Internet
The things you listed is what society wants you to do, not what you want to do. Do some hard thinking what YOU want to do with your life and what is important to you; nothing else will give you peace and fulfillment. You can set some long term goals if you want, but from experience i tell you to start with something small and keep that up, that’s hard enough as it is.
If what you achieve and what you want is not the same, you will not be happy at all.
I don’t anything for myself though.
You must want something if you want to stop being unhappy. What would you change in your life if given the option?
Being born rich.
If you were born rich what would you want to do?
OP is trolling successfully
Live a better life, not for other people, live a life you want to lead. When you have your own life sorted, you’ll find other people want to participate more in your life
There’s no overarching point to living. We exist, and then after a time we die. But we feel things while alive, so there is a point in deciding what you want to do while you’re stuck here. You listed some things you’ve given up on, but what is it that you want to do with your time?
