I mean, if, say, you got kidnapped by someone at a young age and you were too young to form memories, then you could theoretically live an entire life falsely believing your parents are your biological parents. Especially if your birth wasn’t properly documented, or from a developing country where paperwork isn’t exactly being done properly.
As to why, maybe some has fertility issues or something. Maybe their original kid died and now they are just having a weird parent complex and trying to fill the void, passing off someone’s kid as their own.
Reason why I’m having these thoughts because I remember running away from home once and its possible perhaps I got kidnapped and I’m misremembering about the part where my mom found me. Perhaps another sets of events happened and my brain just paved over it with less traumatic memories??? Like repressed memories? Idk, memory is kinda fragile, idk how much to trust memory.
I read about some of these stories and now I have paranoia lol.
(Sorry if this post is kinda bizzare, I just have depression and thoughts be spiraling)
I was not raised by my biological father so I have never put any stock in the notion that you have to sire a child to be its parent.
So no,
Has anyone ever doubted their parents are their parents? Most teenagers about their biological parents during puberty.
Is it possible that you were abducted after running away? Yes. Is it very likely? No. These cases are rare but get lots of news coverage.
If you’re under 40, the lack of pictures of your childhood could be conspicuous. Most parents document the progress of their kids and after the advent of digital photography there should be lots of evidence to put your mind at ease.
get lots of news coverage
For context, this was when I was in mainland China, they didn’t do Amber Alerts or really have a lot of new coverage. I don’t think they would go out of their way to tell the public about it, “face” culture and all, it looks bad if these things get reported often. Kidnapping allegedly happened a lot in China, because fertility issues and One Child Policy. I remember my mother warning me about it, but I can’t be certain if that was before or after that incident.
If you’re under 40, the lack of pictures of your childhood could be conspicuous.
I do have childhood pictures, but I really can’t tell if its really me in the picture. It’s not like I remember what I looked like.
If my mother told me “Actually you are not our biological child.” I would say “Ok, cool, are there any medical things I need to know about?”
The only other thing I would be wondering about is; are they rich? Do they want to give me money?
Parents are the ones that parented you. The other ones are just DNA donors.
No. A picture of me and my father from when we were kids should dispell any such suspicions.
I read a story about somewhere in the US, like back in the 1900s before modern genetics, that some rich family lost their child, and another poor family had a look-alike, so the rich family claimed it and of course everyone sided with the rich family. But modern genetics reveal that it wasn’t their real child.
Even with photos, practically every kid looks the same, I can’t even be certain if those photos are me or not.
Thought about it sometimes as a kid. But eventually I started to look exactly like my dad.
For me I have a brother, and the family resemblance for both of us to our father is pretty obvious.
I also have never detected any inconsistencies in anything my parents have told me about when I and my brother were little.Yes, it’s normal.
Seriously, books have been written about this. Fiction I mean, but probably also some sort of analysis.
Never occurred to me in serious thoughts but could you do a DNA test to find out?
How do I just discreetly grab a sample? Yank some hair from them while they’re asleep? Does hair even show DNA?
But yea idk about actually asking for consent for dna test, they might get offended by it.
I’m also worried about my Citizenship status.
I did, and shrugged it off
for me this is the same kind of questions as “maybe the universe was created 5 seconds ago”. It’s impossible to resolve, and doesn’t change anything
Not impossible, I could ask for a DNA test, but that’s gonna be really awkward and they might end up disinheriting me for being “disrespectful” even if they were my biological parents.
It does change something, if its a match, then I have one less obessive thoughts to worry about.
But if it comes out not a match… yea that’s gonna be a problem. My legal status, US Citizenship, could be at stake, since I obtained it via derivation.
But I can’t get over the OCD over these thougths… ugh…
I always looked too much like my parents, but your concern sounds like something worth addressing. Would a dna test help?
At least for me, not for a second. I have distinctive physical traits from my father.
Definitely, but then thirty years later, I look just like my uncles, and my daughters are starting to look more and more like their auntie and I stopped worrying about it all.
Do you have a birth certificate? Do you have access to a mental health professional?
Do you have a birth certificate?
Memories are fuzzy, but I should have one, since the N-600 required it.
That said tho, birth certificates don’t exactly prove much, other than that I legally exist. I mean, what if that birth certificate was issued in the name of a deceased person? What if, hypothetically speaking, if these aren’t my biological parents, and their original kid died, and they kidnapped me as a weird parental desire to fill in their now-dead child’s place, used as like a sort of bandaid over their grief or something?
Idk maybe I read too much fucked up news stories or watch too many tv drama.
Do you have access to a mental health professional?
And no, I got a bunch of referrals but sort of procrastinated. I should probably schedule an appointment, this depression headache is killing me.
I don’t have a driver license so I need my parents to drive me to doctors visits. Unless I’m gonna waste like $30 on Uber every trip, which I don’t have the luxury of. And I absolutely cannot do public transit, tooo many people. My parents (if they even are my parents, that is) are busy all the time. I’m too broke, and I need them be with me to get them to pay the copays.
Oh fuck, ever since I stopped taking antidepressants, my thoughts just go fucking wild.
My dude, you should not stop taking those meds.
I’m my own grandpa.
Fry, stop doing the nasty in the past-y
