For context, I’m circumcised and expecting a son and my wife and I are torn about the circ. We’re American so from a cultural standpoint circumcision is the default choice. Thing is, there’s no real benefit besides practicing a religion we don’t believe in, and I’m uncomfortable about cutting the tip of my son’s dick off.

On the other side, I’ve met a guy who was bullied in high school so bad for it he got a circ as an adult. Apparently crazy painful recovery. I’ve also talked to women who are generally grossed out by uncircumcised men. I don’t want to make him feel like something’s wrong with him his whole life because I was uncomfortable with the idea.

From a moral standpoint I’m against it, but from a social and cultural standpoint I feel like I should do it? It’s a crappy situation. If there’s any uncircumcised American men who want to talk about their penis I’m all ears.

  • troed@fedia.io
    312·
    9 days ago

    Do you approve of genetic mutilation* for cultural reasons?

    I think your answer lies there.

    *)

    Circumcision was associated with frequent orgasm difficulties in Danish men and with a range of frequent sexual difficulties in women, notably orgasm difficulties, dyspareunia and a sense of incomplete sexual needs fulfilment.

    https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21672947/

    • ryannathans@aussie.zone
      21·
      9 days ago

      Now do a breakdown between at birth by medical professionals vs rabbis or similar unqualified individuals who then suck the blood out of the baby’s penis with their mouth

        • ryannathans@aussie.zone
          11·
          8 days ago

          What’s what Jews do, the Rabbi performs the circumcision and then sucks the baby’s bleeding penis

            • foggenbooty@lemmy.worldEnglish
              1·
              8 days ago

              Definitely is. Some practice it and some don’t, but it’s traditionally part of it.

              The traditional method of performing metzitzah b’peh (Hebrew: מְצִיצָה בְּפֶה, abbreviated as MBP[73])—or oral suction[74][75]—has become controversial. The process has the mohel place his mouth directly on the infant’s genital wound to suck blood away from the cut. Many circumcision ceremonies no longer use metzitzah b’peh,[76] but Haredi Jews continue to perform it.[71][72][64] The practice poses a serious risk of spreading herpes to the infant.[77][78][79][80] Proponents maintain that there is no conclusive evidence that links herpes to Metzitza,[81] and that attempts to limit this practice infringe on religious freedom.[82][83][84]

              https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brit_milah

        • ryannathans@aussie.zone
          1·
          8 days ago

          Complications, as tracked by the study, are obviously going to be far higher when performed by unqualified religious leaders that literally suck on the wound