I’m on Lemmy so no. /s
I don’t get it.
Lonely internet nerds.
Awe, they are full of love.
Personally, I think Heinlein said it best: “Love is that condition in which the happiness of another person is essential to your own.”
Love is also a choice that you need to make every day.
Next week my wife and I will be celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. I love her more now than I did back then.
I understand it in theroy.
But:
Ah the infinite loop.
Some lyrics should help.
Should I try to hide
The way I feel inside
My heart, for you?
Would you say that you
Would try to love me too?
In your mind
Could you ever be
Really close to me?
I can tell the way you smile
If I feel that I
Could be certain, then
I would say the things
I want to say tonight
But 'til I can see
That you’d really care for me
I will dream
That someday you’ll be
Really close to me
I can tell the way you smile
If I feel that I
Could be certain, then
I would say the things
I want to say tonight
But 'til I can see
That you’d really care for me
I’ll keep trying to hide
The way I feel inside
Just recognize it and break the cycle.
I think you misread the meme. So I’ll point you in the direction; the shirts are pride flags.
Its a cycle. You can break it at any point. You might need to quit dreaming.
Oh, so you didn’t go and learn I was playing on the fact that I am Aro-ace?
Only the parts Haddaway taught me
baby don’t hurt me
No.
Nope. Tho that might be years of others conditioning me to believe I was unlovable, then social doings became harder cause I was done with school
Found one.
There are plenty of people who felt the same way you do but it doesnt have to be a macro thing. Am I lovable? What a crazy thing to say. Have I been loved? I love you. I dont love anything specific about you, obviously, but when I look out into the world I want you to be safe, and cared for, and healthy. Thats love.
Thats macro. Micro comes from within. Its wired into your body, generally speaking.
Enough to get by, but not completely. Like most things.
Philosophical answer: That shit is crazy, but we need it. We’ll never understand it.
Science answer: Evolution and brain chemicals.
since feeling is first
who pays any attention
to the syntax of things
will never wholly kiss you;wholly to be a fool
while Spring is in the worldmy blood approves,
and kisses are a better fate
than wisdom
lady i swear by all flowers. Don’t cry
—the best gesture of my brain is less than
your eyelids’ flutter which sayswe are for each other: then
laugh, leaning back in my arms
for life’s not a paragraphAnd death i think is no parenthesis
– ee cummings
Love is not just one thing on its own.
Tru
Do I?
Do you know what love is? A chemical. Electrons in your brain sending signals. Are you familiar with Ophiocordyceps unilateralis? It’s a fungus that infects ants. It’s amazing, really. The spores take over their central nervous systems and force them to climb to a high point, and then the fungus begins to grow up, bursting from the tops of their heads like a branch. And it kills them, of course. All so it can spray new spores over the jungle, infecting more ants. When people say love, that’s what I think of.
Good thing cordyceps can’t survive in humans due to our higher body temperature.
Yet.
Love is the recognition that, on a profound level, the other is part of myself, and I part of the other.
Only if you love yourself
What is it if you don’t love yourself?
Being in love makes you an expert on love the same way getting run over by a car makes you a mechanic.
I like Zizeks idea of love being a violent event. Check the yt video by Julian de madeiros which should explain the idea.
You could also read/ listen to zizek talk about it
