An (American) football team my family follows used to have a coach that got so upset over plays and calls that he would advance onto the field gesticulating and screaming, causing the team to get penalties.
Did they council this guy to control himself? No. They got someone on staff to physically restrain him when he lost his mind. Like the kid’s only job was to grab the coach by the belt-loops and keep him off the field.
I love this story because it’s about a masculine man engaging in a masculine activity who cannot be expected to control his own hysterics. I keep it in my back pocket for when the “men are stoic, women are emotional” BS comes up.
They use sport as an outlet for other problems in their life.
Let them blow off steam as long as it isn’t damaging anyone or thing.
Yeah. People who get seriously into a game, but understand boundaries, can be a lot of fun. I’d go to watch parties for the people, not the game, and they made it more fun (even if it was just because I was laughing at them).
My abusive ex used to yell at the tv when his team would lose or do something stupid. His alcoholism only made it worse and he would often take his anger out on me.
I am sorry you had that experience. I wasnt going to reply to this thread but your comment got my mind going. If you are single now, I hope its how you want. And if you are in a new relationship, I hope it is the best it can be.
my step dad was the same way about sports and drinking and becoming abusive. To the point of physical violence directed at me and my mom.
I am a loud fan. I enjoy the passion that a good game can produce in me. I do yell at the TV sometimes. I am a season ticket holder for my local pro soccer team. I am seriously the loudest fan at one point of every game because I start a chant and everyone in the stadium hears me and responds. And I yell at the ref and opposing team all the time. Always in good fun and I try not to be personal. Mostly trying to get a laugh, get the other team on the wrong foot.
But I draw the line at abusive language.
I admit I drink too much sometimes and can be an asshole
BUT ABUSIVE BEHAVIOR DIRECTED AT A LOVED ON IS NEVER ACCEPTABLE.
FULL STOP
I’ve always found it silly how so many men get angry at other men just kicking a ball around tbh
But they’re in different uniforms. That’s nearly the same as flying a flag.
I think people are weirdly obsessed with sports. It’s fine to enjoy them, but it’s a fucking game. They need to calm down.
It’s an interesting thought experiment to look at sports fans getting overly excited by people chasing a ball bouncing around like an anthropologist studying group behaviour in primates. I can’t see them as anything other than gibbering apes after doing that.
Seems silly to me.
I can understand being disappointed when your favorite team loses. I can understand being really upset when the team YOU PLAY FOR loses. I don’t understand getting pissed at people you’ll never meet because they didn’t play a game for your entertainment well enough.
AFAICT, the outcome of the game has nothing to do with the athletes. It’s based on how hard the fans hoped and prayed for their selected team to prevail. Other than that, it comes down to corruption and incompetence among the officials.
