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Cake day: July 11th, 2023

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  • Sorry you are having hard times… makes me think of being young and having a hard time figuring it all out myself. I am a generally normal man but when I was young I didn’t know what I felt. IDK if you are in the same boat I was

    I didn’t know if I was gay until the day I kissed a boy. We were about the same age as you and it was one of those “well that question is answered, not gay”. I am always thankful for that memory.

    In my world, there are plenty of people like you in daily life. So much so that it doesn’t even register most of the time. Washington State is a world away from Ohio it seems.

    I always truly felt that Dan Savages message “it gets better” is a truism. I knew a lot of people that left their world and came to Seattle because it was where it got better for them.

    if you arn’t gay then it doesn’t matter either. There are so many women that I personally know that would prefer a feminine guy over a jock beefcake meathead

    I hope you know, it does get better. But it might mean you need to leave that old life behind to start a new one in an environment that will welcome you.

    I remember feeling grossed out or disgusted by fat people and one time someone said something wondering what gay people do in private. I distinctly remember thinking, WTF dude like I don’t like fat people but I am not thinking about their sex lives. They arn’t destroying society and if they are happy then who cares? My opinion is meaningless to this.

    bigotry is bigotry and that helped me find my line internally.

    anyways, you are always welcome to sit by me and I would welcome a conversation with you

    but it would have to happen outside of Ohio because I am probably not going there :P

    one of my favorite quotes from the director David Lynch “fix your hearts or die”. I think the ugly masculinity that you have had to face should have to face their hearts






  • IDK but I don’t have kids or horses. Kids seem to be the easier choice because after a little time they take care of themselves. Horses can live for 20 or more years and you have to take care of them every fucking day (my sister has three, she also has 4 kids but their all adults now).

    It really just comes down to if you want children or not. Don’t let the horse be an excuse.