(A funny meme for you, if you’re wondering about the picture)
So to preface, like everyone else, I came from reddit, a website that I left due to some subs that I don’t want to name as they are personal to me.
The reason I left is because it got flooded with stupid people, and I realised that the only reason I kept using Reddit was to argue with those fools.
But the thing is, that simply cutting out reddit didn’t solve my problem, which is that I really hate a lot of people and I’m not even going to deny it.
A lot of them deserve it tho, I’m mostly talking about those jerks who try to stample on others to feel better about themselves. I hate how this word got “ruined” but to be precise I’m talking about “bigoted” people.
Anyways l just because they “deserve” the hate (or don’t) I still feel angry after meeting people like this and I honestly don’t know what to do now.
EDIT: made formatting better
Bless your cotton socks, god speed.
I don’t know what that means, because unfortunately I am both autistic and not and english speaker
It’s a British idiom used to show endearment. Don’t worry about not knowing it, I’m near native in English and didn’t know.
Huh. I assumed it was a joke about shooting load in socks.
It’s what some people say to others when they want to call them naive, silly or childish but in the absolutely nicest possible way. <3
Like “you sweet, summer child” except less obviously condescending?
I mean, that’s how I’ve heard it, yes.
You know, intolerant people are people too, just like you and me. They have feelings, hopes and dreams. Biggots are also human beings. Hell, even nazis are people too. If listening to this bothers you, I don’t know how to break this to you…
I guess you’re not wrong, but people or not, fuck Nazis.
I wouldn’t even go as far as to group people into tolerant vs intolerant binaries. Everyone is intolerant about something. Everyone has boundaries. You wouldn’t just let someone walk into your house and start using your toothbrush. But that’s not very controversial!
One of the biggest issues with tolerance vs intolerance debates is the unequal burden of tolerance. When it comes to housing, this is reflected in the classic NIMBY vs YIMBY debates. Many many people complain about NIMBYs but are actually NIMBYs themselves: they just want someone else to bear the burden. For example, they may be pro-early-release for a sex offender while not wanting that sex offender to live in their neighbourhood.
This applies to all kinds of issues. People may be pro-immigration but are they pro-giving-up-their-job to a (lower paid) immigrant? Probably not.
We as a society were much more tolerant and welcoming towards immigrants before we put all of our social welfare programs in place. In a society with no minimum wage, no social programs, and few/no regulations to limit housing development, there is no cost to immigration because immigrants have to claw their way up from the very bottom. That was how the big cities in Canada and the U.S. were built: by immigrants who choose to come here (fleeing brutal oppression and lack of opportunity) and make their own fortunes.
It is not the spoon that bends, it is you.
There is no spoon.
Get some sleep.
Being truly intellectually challenged is not something one decides on, so I have patience and overall try to believe in the natural goodness of people, which can be obfuscated by heavy propaganda (if you’re in the Fire nations/Ba Sing Ses of the world, that’s a guarantee), a postmodern lack of ideology and moral relativism, the wrong lessons learned from childhood trauma, etc. Many people online with morally disgusting takes are just paid for them too, don’t forget (saying something wild but without a moral component doesn’t affect people as much). Basically: give people the benefit of the doubt until you’re certain that they’re not complete, unrepentant c*nts, then accommodate them as much as you can and correct them if possible.
Also, if there’s one thing I’ve learned from my somewhat lengthy relationship: we’re all “difficult” one way or another, someone is already ‘accommodating’ you if you have any friends/family/loved ones.
I realize that this is just satire in a cartoon and everything but I don’t really like the negative stigma given the gamers being a 42-year-old gamer at this point in my life and a professional that makes good money and is a responsible adult, it’s kind of annoying to see any group of people painted poorly like this. it’s funny how phrases like One bad Apple ruin the whole damn bunch seem to just always ring true.
I think it’s a bit of conflation going on, kind of how ‘nice guys/girls’ doesn’t actually refer to people who are genuinely nice. (Referring to people who are nice on the assumption that they are owed something in return for it.)
The stigma around ‘gamers’ really boils down to the sort who make it their whole identity, as opposed to people who just enjoy video games. And unfortunately, it’s easy for people to not even care about the difference.
The comic itself does kind of lean on the more general ‘he just plays video games all day’, but I guess that’s why the post reclaims it a bit.
You were probably talking to mostly trolls, bots, and “hive minded” people. Avoid that daily dose of cortisol from just being pissed off talking to stupid people in general. Here’s a thing you can try: write all the mean things you want to say, but don’t post it. Instead, cancel your post, downvote, and move on. It’s kind of therapeutic, almost like writing a mean letter you’re not going to deliver and destroy. It may not work for you, but being angry talking to stupid people all the time is very draining. Another saying, “You can’t win an argument against stupid people. They bring you down to their level and beat you with experience.”
I see you meant trample not sample. I was kicked off reddit for a reason lemme really likes.
I have “love your enemies” rattling in my brain for the past few days and I have comparing it to “you have no enemies”. They almost seem mutually exclusive but make you act very similarly. I get how trampling on people makes people like me feel better that it’s toxic and well if people to trample on me I’d accept it and let them know I understand why they’re doing it.
I can accept that people drink alcohol, do drugs, and prey on those they precieve weaker than them. I do see people get mad at other people drinking and doing drugs with real passion behind it. it’s weird to say it’s really a perspective thing.
My best advice is to try to understand them. If they’re truly angry assholes they can’t explain and they’ll get frustrated at their inability to articulate and precieve your question as a form of (self projected) hostility, if they are trying to communicate to you they’ll make an attempt to say why they’re angry. I like to think that if you matured enough you’ll just say what you don’t like and why you don’t like it.
Hate eats away your soul.
I would like to use a different expression but I lack one at the moment.
Stupid, despicable, divisive, angry individuals are plentiful. Small minds that feel empowered through anonimity and the sense of security coming from attacking other from their own space.
I don’t need to tolerate them but you also don’t need to allow their vitriole to poison your mind and sap your well being. It is not worth it.
The fact that you’re asking the question means you’ve made a lot of progress already. Give yourself real credit for wanting to be a better person. A lot of people don’t ever reach that point.
I’m working on the same things myself and I don’t think there are any simple or complete solutions. All you can do is keep in mind where you want to be, look at where you are, and try to get a little closer all the time.
You can’t control how you feel, but you can control what you do about it. Don’t act on your anger. Treat everyone as if they are a decent person, even if you don’t really think they are. You don’t have to enable them or accept the destructive things they do, but show kindness when you can and show sorrow, instead of anger, when you can’t.
Do this for yourself. Even if nothing else changes, it will change you. And over time, it will have a positive effect on other people, even if you often won’t know.
If every other person you meet “is stupid” the problem might not be other people.
I’m not surrounded by these people. I used to actively go there to argue, I just don’t do it anymore
