I’ve seen people consider even 5’7" as short for some reason so i’m curious if it has happened with someone
Regularly throughout my life. I’m also 5’7". It seems to be less of an issue now that I’m older. People are going to like what they like. But people who limit their choices to strict deterministic traits tend to completely skip right over awesome people, and then they wonder why they’re partners are so terrible.
So yeah, this shit is going to happen. You’ll also get chosen for your height. Focus on improving those physical traits over which you have control.
Weird; I mean, I know it’s anicdotal but I’m 5’6" and I’ve never had anyone so much as even mention my height (maybe when around other men when I was younger once or twice but the bulk of my friends have always been more women such that I don’t truly remember).
I guess it doesn’t really contribute to the thread but I was just genuinely surprised at such a difference of experience.
But people who limit their choices to strict deterministic traits tend to completely skip right over awesome people, and then they wonder why they’re partners are so terrible.
True as Hell, though.
I (woman, 5’10") was dumped for being too tall.
Condolences my dude.
dudette, I think
Is dude not back to being gender neutral again? What are we going with?
Would you have sex with a dude? If yes then it’s fine
That’s one hell of a standard
Why? If dude is gender neutral, then you should be comfortable using the phrase “I’d have sex with that dude”.
I’d say it’s a expression that does have gender associations, but it’s not offensive or anything to call a woman dude in the right context. If anything it is usually used as a gesture of camaraderie, in this case because a woman has suffered in a way that men can understand.
I mean, 5’7" is quite short.
Not that I would wish it on anyone to be rejected because of their height, but we’re all entitled to our sexual preferences, without the burden of justification. And this one seems incredibly reasonable, unless maybe you’re in Asia where 5’7" is like top 1 percentile?
I would never date any man or woman below 5’10" because I prefer my partner to be taller than me. I generally consider anything less than 5’8" to be very short, and anyone over 6’0" to be tall.
5’7" isn’t “quite short” because 5’7.5" is the global average height.
Global is the key word. In Denmark 5’7" is definitely short. In North Korea, that would be huge.
Denmark has an average Height of 181.6cm for males, and North Korea has an average of 165.6cm. The Global average height is 171 cm, leaving Denmark 10.6cm above average and North Korea is 5.4cm below the average, and a difference of 16cm between the average of the two populations.
This is not a “huge”, or a “definitely short” kind of difference.
You don’t think that’s a significant difference in average height? Cuz that’s a pretty big difference to me. Denmark’s average being around 6’ when most of the rest of us consider that tall is pretty significant
You don’t think that’s a significant difference in average height?
I literally just said that, so yes.
Cuz that’s a pretty big difference to me. Denmark’s average being around 6’ when most of the rest of us consider that tall is pretty significant
I am 193cm and my partner is about 35cm smaller than me. That is a significant difference in my opinion, while 16cm is not.
🙄
Average height where I am in the UK is 5’9" for men (175cm). I’m not dating in Asia so the global averages aren’t really relevant.
Don’t feel insecure though, it’s just each to their own, and I hope you find someone awesome who loves you and is a good fit! (if you haven’t already of course!)
I’m quite lucky because I found a girlfriend who is the same height as me. We’re a really good fit together physically and much more importantly we’re absolute soulmates, and in the end that’s what matters.
And for what it’s worth, before I met my gf when I was younger, I still went on a date with a trans bi dude who was like 5’3" or 5’6" or something because I found him super interesting. Didn’t work out, and it was actually me getting turned down, so there’s that, I didn’t discard him as a choice just because of his height nor even the potential physical incompatibilities.
I also once set up a date with a self-proclaimed “incel” Chinese immigrant who was around the 150-160cm mark, but he got paranoid and thought it was a scam because I listed the height req on my profile, and I was really busy and not responding much because I was trying to nail down an internship at the same time 🤣
One time , I went on a date with a cishet dude who said he was 6’0", so I took the occasion to wear my heels, turns out dude lied and just looked like my son the entire time, he also had a bit of a babyface, and it didn’t help he was a software engineer, and I was unemployed, but I talked circles around him in terms of computer stuff when I started infodumping about hackintoshing old vaio laptops over dinner.
Never spoke to him after that and neither did he to me lol, awkward all around lmao
5’9" is also not much bigger than 5’7’, so it still isn’t “quite short” in comparison.
Why would I feel insecure?
Not you specifically necessarily, but my comment got quite downvoted so I figured I’d include that as a disclaimer just in case
Why do you believe that anyone down voting you is insecure? Personally I down voted you because you are factually incorrect, and I would assume that is why others are doing so.
How am I factually incorrect? I didn’t even state any facts. A statement like 5’7" is quite short is fairly subjective by its nature because short/tall are qualitative descriptors that it’s hard to quantify even with a frame of reference and averages agreed upon.
I’m guessing you’re a man ?
I’m 5’4 male and average looking and a bit chubby
Dude, if you have decent hygiene, are a basic human being and treat people with respect, you will rise above all the other men who are stupid, racist, sexist, entitled pieces of shit
The bar is set REALLY low
Really Really low
Also if someone rejects you for your height consider he/she is doing you a favor by signaling he/she is not mature / has fucked up priorities for a relationship
The bar is set REALLY low
There’s a saying “the bar for men is in hell”
I thought it meant there was a drinking establishment for men in hell. They go and drink with the devil, and that’s where they get all their bad ideas. They’re doing shots and the devil’s like “say she’s fat”, and the guy is like “good advice bro”.
Turns out the saying just means the bar is super low. So low you don’t even have to jump. It’s so low, it’s deeper than the depths of the earth and in the fires of hell that burn below.
But yeah, so many men are so horrible, it’s shockingly easy to rise above them.
idk im thankful for my friends but ik its a bubble forsure, everyones divisive and shallow lately, woman especially, because modern woman, have infinite choice, you wont feel content, compared to modern average dude with minimal choices desperate to keep what they can get coming off desperate and insecure lol
