It would never even occur to me to eat at fast food (unless you count like the pizza by the slice place on the corner).

I just feel so alienated from everyone else sometimes. Just… The food isn’t good, isn’t good for you, isn’t cheap, isn’t fast. The org isn’t environmentally or politically friendly. Just stop eating there. Be mildly inconvenienced if you have to.

But I guess that will slam right into the constant problem of “someone feels bad and now they’re not going to listen”

I was thinking the other day there’s probably a pretty straight line between Match group owning so many dating apps, men’s unhappiness, and violence.

Like the apps create the illusion that you can meet someone and be happy, but their primary goal is to make money. They don’t try very hard to introduce you to good matches. They also haven’t solved the experience from the woman’s point of view. So men feel like they’re just shouting into the void, that people don’t like them, etc etc. Some of those people likely go on to become incels or do violence.

This isn’t to say that violent men are not culpable. They are. They retain agency. But Match group (that’s tinder, okcupid, hinge, match, plenty of fish, and more) is making the problem worse.

It’s like if there was a food shortage, and someone bought up all the grocery stores. Then they made all of them mazes and had half the cereal boxes empty.

It’s kind of interesting how the reasons people dislike things range from “it sucks” to “here is a carefully constructed argument showing why the film’s thesis promotes toxic ideas of etc etc”

Also interesting when someone’s reasons for hating something are someone’s reason for loving it. Like a review says “It’s full of sad gay shit” and one chunk of people are going to boo and the other are going to perk right up.

Spaceslug https://spaceslug.bandcamp.com/album/lemanis-remastered

It’s spacey and sluggy.

https://theauthoritarians.org/

They tend to be more authoritarian. That means they’re more likely to prioritize in-group above all else.

There’s a book about authoritarian personalities I was reading a while ago. It talks about an experiment where they did like a model UN, but secretly sorted all the authoritarian types into one game and everyone else into the other.

The authoritarians ruined the world. Like, nuclear war. When they got a do-over, they still fucked it up.

The other group basically cooperated and solved world hunger.

Authoritarians probably shouldn’t be allowed in positions of power. The GOP attracts a lot of them.

Supposed to go to a party this weekend. Last time I went to one with this crowd, it was pretty okay and I made a new guy-i-text-sometimes-friend.

Though the time before that was really dull, so who knows.

rpg.net is pretty good, but I don’t post there anymore. I may have eaten a large ban in a stupid argument about accessibility. I still don’t think being able to unilaterally change the rules of the game in your favor in a multiplayer game falls under accessibility, but apparently some people do!

Neglecting public education is really going to keep biting us in the ass.

Something like half of US adults can’t read at a sixth grade level.

If we took some of the idiotic venture capitalist “it’s cat gifs on the block chain” nonsense and put it into education and infrastructure, we’d be so much better off.

I don’t really know how to get from here to there, either. Give me magic powers to Thanos snap away some people, maybe?

The problem with Mastodon and Twitter is structural, it’s based around following people, not topics.

I’ve long thought this but infrequently find other people who think the same!

On here (and reddit, rip) and most forums, I don’t really look at the user name. I just read the content I think that’s a better setup.

I am unfamiliar with this. Link? Does it update galaxy to point to your steam games?

I mostly buy on steam to have my library in one place (without manually adding games) and the free cloud backup. And the Linux support.

Doesn’t sound healthy, no. Why do you stop doing these things?

Oh is this the one that was posting under the name “Empty” about how they want a girlfriend, but won’t do anything except play a narrow set of video games? Or a different sad internet person?

Yeah the Internet is full of traps that are engineered to draw men in. There’s blood on Google’s hands for just letting that happen. (And probably other companies too, but YouTube is big)

Related note: unchecked capitalism makes everything worse. Trying to get dates and the apps are just like “pay us $5 and maybe we’ll show your profile to someone. Be a shame if your beautiful profile just never showed up for anyone.”

This is true. The book “why does he do that” is a fascinating look into how abusive people (mostly but not always men) operate.

bandcamp.

• drm free copies of the music to keep forever
  • I’m building a library of music I can keep forever, even if I stop using the service. Some months I don’t pay anything because I’m happily listening to what I already have. I’m not stuck paying a subscription
• musicians get a good cut
• their blog posts about genres and cities and stuff are good, and are (or feel like they are) written by an actual person.
• Sometimes musicians do “listening parties” where you just hang out in a livestream with the band
• when you buy stuff, you can write a message to the band and sometimes they write back

Now, if nothing you listen to is on bandcamp it won’t be as appealing. But there’s a wide variety of genres.

“unicorn hunters” are a well known trope and generally looked on with scorn within ethical non-monogamy / polyamory communities. They’re almost always a bad kind of hierarchical, and usually don’t see the new third person as an equal, whole, person.

I’m going to guess that bisexual men looking for another man are slightly less likely to be this particular kind of dehumanizing, but I don’t have any data to back it up.

I don’t think OP is actually interested in making their life better, but for anyone else who saw the post and was like “oh that’s me” there are good answers in the other replies.

Nothing I’m going to write is especially original.

First off, you probably need to be somewhere where there are people. Cities are great. Nowhere, Nebraska is going to make things harder. If you’re out in the country you’re probably going to need to move or commute. There may still be local stuff happening, but with fewer people there’s probably less of it.

But once you find where people hang out, you can probably find a meetup or similar, and go.

There was a board game meetup I went to before the pandemic that had regulars and new people every month. Good way of making friends. I don’t like board games that much, but it was still fun.

There’s a bar near me that runs events from mixers to movie nights to kink stuff. I’ve gone to the mixers and made a handful of friends and acquaintances.

The local library by me does stuff. Lessons, talks, I think they might have book discussion groups.

Stop making excuses. Sitting there going “I don’t like bars. I don’t like board games. The library is too far away. The city is too loud” isn’t helping. You can make excuses for anything to justify not changing, but then you won’t change! You’ll stay just as you are, with opportunities slipping away. No manic pixie dream girl is coming for you. The would-be friend you could make is at the movie night chatting with someone who actually showed up, even though he doesn’t like the genre that much.

If some of the problems are actual blockers, like “I live deep in the suburbs with no public transit and no car”, then cool: that’s your first problem to solve. You’re not really going to get anywhere (no pun intended) without addressing that.

I feel like the family should be liable, and the child taken to a family that’s not dangerously stupid.