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  • Many people have a poor understanding of human communication and say things like “I don’t do small talk”. They don’t seem to understand that you use small talk (eg: what did you do this weekend?) to launch into more personal talk (eg: “I saw this doom metal band The Well play at so-and-so bar. So good! Do you like metal?”)

    Sometimes people do like the grey text here and answer small talk questions in short, dead end, ways, and unless you’re trying to kill the conversation that’s probably self sabotage.




  • jjjalljs@ttrpg.networktoRare insults@lemmy.worldBlunt but true
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    16 days ago

    Not sure if you’re being entirely serious, but I do find it funny when people (often women in this context) self sabotage like this. By half assing 20 conversations, some number of good matches will bounce because you look like a boring person who can’t converse. You’re more likely to end up with someone who doesn’t care about your words, and then will probably treat you badly.







  • If I have money, I give it to them if they aren’t raising any danger flags. Like there’s one woman who just screams “I’M HUNGRY” at people, and I’m sure that’s true, but I don’t engage with her because it feels unsafe. There’s one whose name I learned, and another couple we recognize each other now.

    I used to make good money (low six figures). Giving away $20/week to people asking for it wasn’t even noticeable in my budget. I could probably have done $200/week without noticing. I think my peers are just bad at budgeting though.

    I’ve been unemployed for a while now, so I don’t always have cash to give. I tell them the truth.

    I don’t expect people who have nothing to give a lot. But I know many of my six figure salary peers could give without even noticing the money, and they don’t. They don’t give to charity, either. They just buy video games they don’t play, run the AC so they have to wear a hoodie inside, and so on.