rpg.net is pretty good, but I don’t post there anymore. I may have eaten a large ban in a stupid argument about accessibility. I still don’t think being able to unilaterally change the rules of the game in your favor in a multiplayer game falls under accessibility, but apparently some people do!

Neglecting public education is really going to keep biting us in the ass.

Something like half of US adults can’t read at a sixth grade level.

If we took some of the idiotic venture capitalist “it’s cat gifs on the block chain” nonsense and put it into education and infrastructure, we’d be so much better off.

I don’t really know how to get from here to there, either. Give me magic powers to Thanos snap away some people, maybe?

The problem with Mastodon and Twitter is structural, it’s based around following people, not topics.

I’ve long thought this but infrequently find other people who think the same!

On here (and reddit, rip) and most forums, I don’t really look at the user name. I just read the content I think that’s a better setup.

I am unfamiliar with this. Link? Does it update galaxy to point to your steam games?

I mostly buy on steam to have my library in one place (without manually adding games) and the free cloud backup. And the Linux support.

Doesn’t sound healthy, no. Why do you stop doing these things?

Oh is this the one that was posting under the name “Empty” about how they want a girlfriend, but won’t do anything except play a narrow set of video games? Or a different sad internet person?

Yeah the Internet is full of traps that are engineered to draw men in. There’s blood on Google’s hands for just letting that happen. (And probably other companies too, but YouTube is big)

Related note: unchecked capitalism makes everything worse. Trying to get dates and the apps are just like “pay us $5 and maybe we’ll show your profile to someone. Be a shame if your beautiful profile just never showed up for anyone.”

This is true. The book “why does he do that” is a fascinating look into how abusive people (mostly but not always men) operate.

bandcamp.

• drm free copies of the music to keep forever
  • I’m building a library of music I can keep forever, even if I stop using the service. Some months I don’t pay anything because I’m happily listening to what I already have. I’m not stuck paying a subscription
• musicians get a good cut
• their blog posts about genres and cities and stuff are good, and are (or feel like they are) written by an actual person.
• Sometimes musicians do “listening parties” where you just hang out in a livestream with the band
• when you buy stuff, you can write a message to the band and sometimes they write back

Now, if nothing you listen to is on bandcamp it won’t be as appealing. But there’s a wide variety of genres.

“unicorn hunters” are a well known trope and generally looked on with scorn within ethical non-monogamy / polyamory communities. They’re almost always a bad kind of hierarchical, and usually don’t see the new third person as an equal, whole, person.

I’m going to guess that bisexual men looking for another man are slightly less likely to be this particular kind of dehumanizing, but I don’t have any data to back it up.

I don’t think OP is actually interested in making their life better, but for anyone else who saw the post and was like “oh that’s me” there are good answers in the other replies.

Nothing I’m going to write is especially original.

First off, you probably need to be somewhere where there are people. Cities are great. Nowhere, Nebraska is going to make things harder. If you’re out in the country you’re probably going to need to move or commute. There may still be local stuff happening, but with fewer people there’s probably less of it.

But once you find where people hang out, you can probably find a meetup or similar, and go.

There was a board game meetup I went to before the pandemic that had regulars and new people every month. Good way of making friends. I don’t like board games that much, but it was still fun.

There’s a bar near me that runs events from mixers to movie nights to kink stuff. I’ve gone to the mixers and made a handful of friends and acquaintances.

The local library by me does stuff. Lessons, talks, I think they might have book discussion groups.

Stop making excuses. Sitting there going “I don’t like bars. I don’t like board games. The library is too far away. The city is too loud” isn’t helping. You can make excuses for anything to justify not changing, but then you won’t change! You’ll stay just as you are, with opportunities slipping away. No manic pixie dream girl is coming for you. The would-be friend you could make is at the movie night chatting with someone who actually showed up, even though he doesn’t like the genre that much.

If some of the problems are actual blockers, like “I live deep in the suburbs with no public transit and no car”, then cool: that’s your first problem to solve. You’re not really going to get anywhere (no pun intended) without addressing that.

I feel like the family should be liable, and the child taken to a family that’s not dangerously stupid.

Maybe it’s because I worked as a cashier for a while in college, but I don’t find self checkout to be any slower than a cashier. I also very rarely have it yell at me. Possibly also because I used to work the self checkout process at a grocery store, too.

I don’t like step sibling porn but it’s a lot of the content. I type in “blonde big tits” or whatever and what comes out is “blonde big tit step sister gets railed” or whatever. I’d click if it was girlfriend or wife instead of step sister the same.

I made a goal for myself to never start a conversation with “Hey” or something similar - I went through every profile I found and picked something specific to talk about.

This is a good strategy. It’s surprising how many people (of all genders) match on dating apps and think “hey” is a strong opener.

Also surprising is how many people think a longer message they send to every match (eg: “what do you think defines art?”) is a good move.

Asking people about their profile stuff is the way to go. People like talking about themselves. People are (hopefully) putting things on their profile their way to talk about.

You would hope, but I think a lot of people would disappoint.

Honestly I lost track of what the original context was (irony) and was just mad that people are like “no, no, half naked anime girls are totally on the same level as Olympic athletes”

It’s up to the community what they want to mark as NSFW. I personally think stuff like the linked image are on the far side of NSFW.

Are you serious? She’s mostly naked. Look at the body language and facial expression.

And it’s just the woman in a void, unlike the Olympics where they’re people doing stuff.

My guy. Do I have to explain to how “I was reading about the olympics” is a whole other category than “I was looking at anime girls”? Maybe it shouldn’t be, but that’s not the world we live in.