VirusMaster3073@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world · 29 days agoWhat were you surprised to learn wasn't actually normal?message-squaremessage-square62fedilinkarrow-up15arrow-down10
arrow-up15arrow-down1message-squareWhat were you surprised to learn wasn't actually normal?VirusMaster3073@lemmy.world to Ask Lemmy@lemmy.world · 29 days agomessage-square62fedilink
minus-square2ugly2live@lemmy.worldlinkfedilinkarrow-up0·28 days agoSame! I don’t know why, but it’s like, “they were nice… I can never come here again.”
minus-squaremorrowind@lemmy.mllinkfedilinkarrow-up0·28 days agoIt’s not that bad for me, but fear of being perceived, fear of being know… It’s all a giant mess
minus-squareViskio_Neta_Kafo@lemm.eelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up0·edit-228 days agoFor me at least I think has is something like: If I’m odd and they don’t know me I’m just an odd customer. But if I’m odd and a regular than I’m an odd person they are thinking about a lot and that makes me nervous like I might mess up.
minus-squarenotanapple@lemm.eelinkfedilinkEnglisharrow-up1·28 days agoExactly this with me too. If they know me I have to hold myself to different standards and more small talk and stuff like that. I have been trying to force myself to go to the same places but I usually fail. The only thing that works for me is going with someone else.
Same! I don’t know why, but it’s like, “they were nice… I can never come here again.”
It’s not that bad for me, but fear of being perceived, fear of being know… It’s all a giant mess
For me at least I think has is something like:
If I’m odd and they don’t know me I’m just an odd customer. But if I’m odd and a regular than I’m an odd person they are thinking about a lot and that makes me nervous like I might mess up.
Exactly this with me too. If they know me I have to hold myself to different standards and more small talk and stuff like that.
I have been trying to force myself to go to the same places but I usually fail. The only thing that works for me is going with someone else.