Not really sure your premise holds. I mean, sure a bunch of tradwives and their husbands might get upset when a woman declines to have kids, but in general I don’t think most people care. I’ve got kids but most of my friends don’t and I can’t imagine anyone caring one way or another.

I’ve gotten it in two flavors.

One is people who are so convinced that life has no meaning without children they feel like they are saving you by pressuring you to have kids.

The other, and far more angry, seem to have had kids because they thought they had too, or had a “happy accident”, and aren’t actually happy about. They see you as the life they could have had.

I have the opposite question: Why are childfree people so triggered by children?

Context: I don’t care if you do or don’t have children, in general. I care how you and yours are behaved. Have kids and they’re well behaved? Fine. Have kids and they’re crazy? Not fine. Don’t have kids and you’re nice? Fine. Don’t have kids and you’re a shit head about them? Not fine.

They aren’t…

What are you even talking about?

I’m guessing this came from an interaction you had with a specific person. You should probably ask them, because I don’t think most people feel the way they do.

Always is a real stretch, but I get your point. The reason is that being angry is easier than being happy.

Really only bothers me if I ask hey are kids welcome at this event and the reply is “Fuck no!”

As a DINK household, I’m happy not having kids

I don’t think they are, it’s the Child Free folks triggered by kids.