i’m a 27 year old single mom with a 12 year old (yes i had him at 15) son who has severe ADHD. his father used to physically abuse me, and i left him a few years ago. i’ve been single ever since, and we’ve gotten super comfortable with each other just because of what we’ve been through the past few years (abusive ex, dangerous area & i had to work late nights at the club to pay the rent when he was a toddler). recently these past few weeks, my son has been knocking on my door at night because he can’t sleep and i feel bad so i’ll let him sleep with me for the night. he’ll cuddle with me a bit and we sleep pretty well, however i’ve read online that co-sleeping isn’t super healthy, and i definitely don’t want to negatively affect his development in any way. any advice would be appreciated :)

  • SoftestSapphic@lemmy.world
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    17 days ago

    If you set a standard that you two can sleep in the same bed then the more time passes the more difficult it will be to stop the behavior.

    So i guess decide what age you’re gonna make him stop, because they usually won’t on their own. 13? 16? 18? 21?