i’m a 27 year old single mom with a 12 year old (yes i had him at 15) son who has severe ADHD. his father used to physically abuse me, and i left him a few years ago. i’ve been single ever since, and we’ve gotten super comfortable with each other just because of what we’ve been through the past few years (abusive ex, dangerous area & i had to work late nights at the club to pay the rent when he was a toddler). recently these past few weeks, my son has been knocking on my door at night because he can’t sleep and i feel bad so i’ll let him sleep with me for the night. he’ll cuddle with me a bit and we sleep pretty well, however i’ve read online that co-sleeping isn’t super healthy, and i definitely don’t want to negatively affect his development in any way. any advice would be appreciated :)
The singular use of “they/them” has existed since the 14th century, and is not simply "a general group of people’ by definition in modern English.
I find the advice to be universal, so what is the problem with it being applied to anyone?
Why do you believe neutral language meant to include every one is exclusionary?
The only people I see making this a “gender war” are you, the two month old account, and the 12 day old account who also responded after being triggered by neutral language. I am open to a good faith discussion about this, but you will need to demonstrate your good faith in the next reply if you want that.
Otherwise, take care.
I was responding to @[email protected]’s comment, and was trying to back you up (though it sounds like I failed). I agree with everything you said in your original comment, as well as the language you used to say it. The “wholesome comment” I was referring to was your comment.
The only thing I’ll take issue with is that I’ve been here for more than two years, I’m just on a new instance after lemm.ee’s shutdown.