i’m a 27 year old single mom with a 12 year old (yes i had him at 15) son who has severe ADHD. his father used to physically abuse me, and i left him a few years ago. i’ve been single ever since, and we’ve gotten super comfortable with each other just because of what we’ve been through the past few years (abusive ex, dangerous area & i had to work late nights at the club to pay the rent when he was a toddler). recently these past few weeks, my son has been knocking on my door at night because he can’t sleep and i feel bad so i’ll let him sleep with me for the night. he’ll cuddle with me a bit and we sleep pretty well, however i’ve read online that co-sleeping isn’t super healthy, and i definitely don’t want to negatively affect his development in any way. any advice would be appreciated :)
Is this a repost? I remember reading this exact thing a few weeks ago.
Anyway, I think it’s a good idea to learn independence. Sleeping together isn’t the problem. Adults like to sleep with someone next to them, too. But it’s the dependence that can cause issues, IMO. Being confident in sleeping alone should be a sign that the child feels safe, so I’m thinking it’s a worthwhile endeavor to make sure the child feels safe and also work towards independent sleeping.