i’m a 27 year old single mom with a 12 year old (yes i had him at 15) son who has severe ADHD. his father used to physically abuse me, and i left him a few years ago. i’ve been single ever since, and we’ve gotten super comfortable with each other just because of what we’ve been through the past few years (abusive ex, dangerous area & i had to work late nights at the club to pay the rent when he was a toddler). recently these past few weeks, my son has been knocking on my door at night because he can’t sleep and i feel bad so i’ll let him sleep with me for the night. he’ll cuddle with me a bit and we sleep pretty well, however i’ve read online that co-sleeping isn’t super healthy, and i definitely don’t want to negatively affect his development in any way. any advice would be appreciated :)
I feel, while it is comforting, that it may hinder a healthy relationship with you and may cause problems in his future relationships and in creating healthy sleep habits.
A child developmental psychologist may be a better person to ask than the internet. You could of course ask an AI for what the general consensus is and go forward as you see fit.
Understand that most people in the west will think it is weird and concerning at his age. In Asia it is common for children to share a parent’s bed through like age 10-12.