I would love to show my family some of my “prouder” moments or bits I’ve written that show I can string a sentence or two together and maybe that I’m more thoughtful than perhaps I come across.

Also, does this tend to suggest a side of me that wants to “please” them? Might need to add that to my shadow work pile…

  • Shambling Shapes@lemmy.oneEnglish
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    1 year ago

    1. You want them to see your work

    2. You want them to be proud of you for that work

    3. You don’t want them to know it was you who wrote the work

    Do I have that right?

    1. is in your control. You can share your work with them.

    2. this is not in your control. It is totally normal to want your family to be proud of you. Unfortunately, we can’t guarantee someone else’s emotions and responses.

    3. also in your control, but conflicts with 2 and makes 1 more difficult

    I hope this “shadow work” involves some therapeutic resources. You have some strong and conflicting thoughts and emotions going in here.