I used to see him all over the place and now nothing. I checked his post history and it’s been 24 days since he last posted anything.
I don’t know the guy or have any personal stake, but seeing someone everywhere just suddenly disappear is odd.
I know FlyingSquid from another community, and sent them a private message just a few days ago saying hello. (I didn’t know they had been missing at the time.) FS is awesome, and I really hope they’re okay.
Well, if you truly do know them - let them know it was noticed and some of us do hope they are ok. A break or a full breakup is totally justified. I just don’t want to see people hurt or hurting.
I will absolutely not share specifics of this since it would be doxxing him, but I found one of his other social media accounts and it had a post from a week ago that seemed ordinary enough. Whatever got him to stop posting here, it wasn’t something so drastic as to prevent him from engaging with his interests
(Also Squid, if you see this, I am happy to explain how I found you over DMs if it concerns you)
Glad to hear that he’s apparently doing okay.
But I must say, I think it’s probably for the best that he dialed down his Fediverse engagement. Both for his own sake (nobody should spend that much time on social media) and for the Fediverse as a whole - he seemed to be everywhere that I went and it made the place feel small and monocultural.
I’ve always liked the way on Reddit I barely ever recognized anyone’s name. I prefer engaging with the conversation, not with the people.
Being real, part of what’s been great about lemmy is connection with people, instead of empty bullshit jokes and snark and the usual smugness that comes from not knowing the people.
There’s a been dozens of times I’ve seen people here see someone acting unusual, and reaching out to see what’s going on, offering sympathy and ending with mutual respect instead of slap fights.
Fuck the way reddit worked. It didn’t work, but everyone thought it was the only way to have threaded forums, that you had to accept everyone being anonymous dicks as the price of discourse and content.
But it isn’t, it really isn’t the only way. And lemmy, for all its faults, still has that sense of actual community where you can go to a new C/ and run across lemmy friends. Some of them may even turn into friends in other ways.
The old squid was indeed everywhere, and he made plenty of mistakes along the way, but damned if he didn’t do his part to make lemmy feel like a place for people first, even when the way he went about that was one of his mistakes.
I don’t want to float through the kind of cesspits reddit could have, feeding back into toxicity via anonymity and disconnection.
I like that aspect of lemmy as well. I quite commonly see familiar names.
I really like just occasionally recognizing someone. Also, user labels are awesome. I write about funny jokes and mad nuts in those.
Thanks for giving an update, I was really concerned
Same here … but still a bit concerned
Hey @[email protected], maybe you will want to reach out if you see this post. (Many here are a bit worried)
Take care 😌
I thought at first it was 24 hours and I was like woa man. Sometimes folks have to take a break. But 24 days is long.
That’s a good point I used to see him all the time and chatted with him some.
Last I spoke, in public comments in here, he had completed his move to the UK (where I live too) so perhaps he’s just been busy with all the changes.
Edit: Good on you for asking.
Nicole got 'em.
She gets everyone in the end.
He disappeared a long time ago when I blocked him for being an asshole.
He became British
Truly a fate worse than death.
Last I saw, he moved back to the UK and was struggling to find a job. The sudden, unexpected lack of communication is certainly concerning.
I knew about the UK move, but had no idea about the job. I agree that the sudden cutoff is strange indeed.
He shared a lot about his life on here and I worry he set himself up for failure moving to the UK. Based on what he’s said, he had a condition where he no longer wanted to eat, and then stopped working for a long time because of that. He seemed to expect that finding a job was going to be easy moving to a new country, but that’s not typically the case, especially after having not worked in years.
After moving, he talked a lot about finding a job, which had me wondering what changed. While he wasn’t working, he was spending 12+ hours on Lemmy every day, with like well over a hundred posts/comments per day, and constantly talking about not being able to work. Going from that mindset to desperately trying to find a job in a foreign country seems like a mindfuck.
Jesus, 12+ hours a day… That is not healthy.
I hope he’s doing okay…
Jesus, 12+ hours a day… That is not healthy
My body, my choice
......Okay, I’m gonna be honest. I don’t know how to respond to this.
On the other hand, maybe he got a job and thus no longer has time to comment here.
I vote for this one
That’s awful. I hope he found something.
Moving and getting a job is difficult because other countries are likely to prioritize their own citizens over transplants.
Eh, they are annoying and powertripping. Glad to see they aren’t shitting all over the place anymore.
They probably burned out to they stopped paying them.
Ah yes, the elusive they.
And there is our resident conspiracy theorist
There was a point a few weeks back where he said he was going to kill himself because he was feeling upset about his future in the UK for some reason and some other user had agreed to like, watch him do it, but then that person backed out. He was acting really weird, but kept up his commenting rate as normal.
Hopefully he’s just stepped away from this platform like someone said and hasn’t harmed himself.
That is not at all what happened.
I read the comments when they occurred and that’s what Squid communicated. I remember that he said he would do it and that a user had agreed to watch because it was shocking to read and he was very upset.
I don’t remember further details, like which user backed out. Squid kept commenting for a long while after that so I just assumed he was being impulsive and calmed down.
This might be completely unrelated to why he’s left, but it occurred. If you have the “real story,” go ahead and correct me.
I do have the real story but it’s not mine to tell, so I won’t relay it here. But yours is not correct. You’re misremembering what happened.
If you can’t tell me what I got wrong (without necessarily giving details) then this conversation is useless.
No it isn’t useless. You are misrepresenting what happened. I am here to make this statement. It is useful in that anyone that might have read what you said will hopefully disregard it as a result
And yet, you can’t articulate what’s wrong with it or why, so is that not a reason for people to completely disregard your assertion, too?
If someone reads what both of us have said, neither of us can provide credible evidence that we are correct. That’s as useless of a conversation as I can imagine.
You’re basically saying “nah, you’re wrong” and people are supposed to buy it based on your word? Again, useless.
Forget squid, what happened to MargotRobbie?
She’s busy filming.
Serious answer: account probably got stale or tired of the joke?
USAID lost its funding
Holy based comment
They figured this place was just another liberal outreach program and moved on. Lots of folks are.
Cry more nazi bitch. Your tears make me happy
You realize Flying Squid has a trans kid and left for the UK because of Trump, right? Right? XDD
Whatever your point was, you just face-planted trying to make it.
Way to make someone expressing concern about someone else instead about your politics
Why are you commenting lol. Just fucking leave drama queen lol
Not sure what to even make of this comment.
It turns out the far left also thinks “liberal” is an insult.
I mean, you look at Schumer, what do you think of the word? We need a new party.
Who said “Democrat”?
You’re not wrong, though.
It is, they just use it to describe anyone left of center that they disagree with, and that’s bullshit
Um yeah? Liberalism has always been a right wing ideology even if Americans misuse the term as a placeholder for progressive.
Oh no you found out. Time for you to move on
Lol good riddance.