The atmosphere is so heated, and the statements are getting more and more extreme. Let’s just assume Harris wins the election. After a campaign like this, how could you ever have a normal relationship with your pro-Trump neighbor/father-in-law/Uncle/Barber or what ever again?

  • Blackbeard@lemmy.worldEnglish
    16·
    17 days ago

    The way people are writing off family instead of just talking to them is awful.

    What makes you think we haven’t tried talking to them?

    • Shadywack@lemmy.worldEnglish
      1·
      17 days ago

      What makes you think we haven’t tried talking to them? Often times that detail is left out, and what you see or hear about is how they just don’t talk anymore.

      • Blackbeard@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        17 days ago

        Trust me, most of us have tried and tried and tried and tried and tried and tried. Some certainly may have preemptively cut people out without discussion, but most of us have beaten our heads against a wall for almost a decade now, trying to convince them that we’re human beings with dignity who deserve respect. We just withdraw from engagement, piece by piece, until there’s nothing lost by just giving up. Cutting them off is usually the last and most consequential move, rather than the first.

        • Shadywack@lemmy.worldEnglish
          1·
          17 days ago

          At the end of the day (or life), your mother/father was and forever have been, your mother and father. Family is immutable, giving up is reprehensible.

          • Jackthelad@lemmy.worldEnglish
            1·
            17 days ago

            If they treat you badly, cutting them out of your life is fine. No one should put up with that from anyone.

            But cutting people out of your life purely because they vote differently to you is just weird and petty.

          • Blackbeard@lemmy.worldEnglish
            1·
            17 days ago

            I have friends who were abandoned by their parents and subsequently adopted. I lost a half-sibling with mental illness after their religious paternal family subjected them to actual exorcisms and other emotional trauma which eventually led to their suicide. My wife has a new 60-year old biological sister that she discovered 2 years ago via DNA. I have friends who cut ties with physically and sexually abusive parents. Family is quite mutable, we are under no obligation to hold fast to toxic blood relatives, and in many cases what we consider “reprehensible” depends entirely on how “reprehensible” the blood relative’s committed offenses are.

            I’m going to assume you’re just arguing from extremely limited personal experience and save the long list of expletives I want to hurl at you on behalf of my friends and family because I’d prefer not to be banned from this community. Good day to you.