You want others to like you. You want others to be happy. You put your own desires aside for the benefit of another. It’s not mindless, it’s selfless.
You make an assumption about a person, and they never give you cause to doubt your assumption. It will take you a long time for you to think your assumption might be wrong. After all, they agreed to it, so they must enjoy it, right? And they invited you to do this thing they like with them, so you don’t wanna bring the mood down by refusing.
It’s obvious in hindsight, or from a third person omniscient perspective like we have, but in the moment? It happens. It shouldn’t, and that’s why it’s a paradox.
See also: Peer pressure, false consensus, “Don’t rock the boat”
You want others to like you. You want others to be happy. You put your own desires aside for the benefit of another. It’s not mindless, it’s selfless.
You make an assumption about a person, and they never give you cause to doubt your assumption. It will take you a long time for you to think your assumption might be wrong. After all, they agreed to it, so they must enjoy it, right? And they invited you to do this thing they like with them, so you don’t wanna bring the mood down by refusing.
It’s obvious in hindsight, or from a third person omniscient perspective like we have, but in the moment? It happens. It shouldn’t, and that’s why it’s a paradox.
See also: Peer pressure, false consensus, “Don’t rock the boat”