I don’t necessarily believe that this trait is inherent to humankind; instead, I think it’s a product of cultures that value things like power and hyperindividualism.

I do believe that there will always be (insecure) people who seek some level of power and/or wealth without regard for others. Whether or not they succeed would—I assume—depend on how that society views authority/skepticism/community/ect; if allowed, that would nudge society a little bit in that direction. And so on.

Sadly, , some governments and corporations have spent millenia aquiring and wielding their vast power and wealth to cripple and exploit other societies that they can benefit from without too much pushback. Which obviously ravages those cultures, too, and often by design.

So… it’s a little hard to know for certain what is truly in our nature.

sure, some people would, but the opinions of the kinds of people who’d be judgemental over something as trivial as a goddamn pillow really aren’t worth much imo.

yeah, I’ve been wondering how much I should be sharing about my political opinions now… and a little concerned about my 15+ years of social media history.

in addition to a lot of others already mentioned (there’s a lot of overlap)

History:

• Step Back History

culture/politics:

• Shanspeare
• FD Signifier

writing/education:

• Zoe Bee

media/ect:

• Tale Foundry (technically about writing fiction, but they also discuss media in general along with its themes, character archetypes, ect. it’s more interesting than it sounds)

• Pop Culture Detective

• Jacob Geller (mostly video games)

• My Little Thought Tree (also psychology)

• Broey Deschanel

fun fact! you can use aquafaba (the liquid from canned chickpeas) as an egg replacer in baking (among other things). you could even make some hummus at the same time

Inscryption is amazing, and I’m not even a card game person. Fuck that damn egg deck, though.

I think a lot of the people on Lemmy came from Reddit when the whole API thing happened. It was pretty much a boycott. I assume most of the people who cared enough about that to leave were mostly left-leaning.

That’s why I’m here, at least.

Edit: not sure about Mastodon, though

We got even plus sized manikins in stores, wow.

you do know that’s because plus-sized clothing exists too, right? Do you expect stores to just not display their clothes simpy because they’re for fat people, or…?

But I dare you to name a single character from a show or movie that is skinny (not jacked skinny, but skinny skinny) that isn’t a crackhead junkie, some psycho or a basement dweller with his eyes glued to a screen?

Victor, from Arcane; Ben Wyatt, from Parks and Recreation; Gareth Keenan, from The Office (UK); Ken Cosgrove from Mad Men. I’m sure there are many more, but that’s just who I could think of off the top of my head.

I absolutely agree that there should be better representation of men’s (and women’s, imo) body types, including skinny men. But you’re really overestimating the quantity and quality of decent representation of fat women in roles that don’t rely on steroetypes. By that, I mean: isn’t unhinged/shrill/creepy/portrayed as gross or undesirable because she’s fat (and sometimes old)/there solely and shallowly as “the funny fat woman”. The majority of roles played by women, especially prominent ones, are still played by thin women.

Fat female characters are relatable and important to have because—whether you like it or not—fat women exist in real life. One simply existing in media does not inherently come with a statement condoning any particular lifestyle as you seem to be implying.

I know one, DJ Qualms, who’s arguably most famous role is a disabled person. Great.

…and? That’s a bad thing to you?

it feels like colleagues talk bad about me.

What makes you say that? It’s pretty likely that’s just your anxiety talking.

I’m not exactly the most social—or even socially competent—person, but I know friends are important to have, especially if you don’t have family you can lean on. Friends can balance you out and provide alternate perspectives when you need them, and we all need them sometimes.

Also, I’m pretty sure having (good) friends is beneficial for your mental health. Having no friends can be detrimental to it.

Regardless of what you decide, I suggest putting yourself out there. Start slowly, and ask people about themselves. It can very difficult and stressful at first, but it does get easier over time.

It might be a good idea to make a pros/cons list for staying/getting a job; I’m sure there are other important factors to consider aside from the social climate.

That’s awesome to hear, but I’m sure it’ll be unaffordable for many—if not most—people who need it… at least in the US. :(

Assume that a woman isn’t just a man with different bits.

Emotional intelligence, empathy, and maturity; knowing when it is more beneficial to be gentle or to just observe/remain quiet; understanding how to take advantage of others’ gender-based assumptions/underestimation; and a deep solidarity with other women.

Hey Arnold!

I like how gender works for the Gethen in Ursula LeGuin’s The Left Hand of Darkness.

Great advice. I’ve been using flossers lately because of a broken shoulder, and I can definitely tell that the quality of my flossing is lower than it is with regular floss. It’s also harder to be gentle.

That is certainly a naive oversimplification of the concept of free will.

It’s funny that you think you can assume how abuse victims would feel, considering it’s quite obvious that you either 1.) haven’t bothered to educated yourself about the psychology of abuse on even a basic level, or 2.) you did, but just decided you know better than the mental health professionals who have spent years studying the topic.

Either way… it’s clear that continuing this particular discussion with you is a waste of time, at least for now.

There’s a big difference between choosing to not get vaccinated and being coerced into it.

Defending her is not defending the unvaccinated; it’s acknowledging that she was a victim of abuse and that abuse has extreme psychological effects that you clearly don’t truly understand.

Nah, but just because it’d also reverse the effects of freezing them. but next time I get them, I’ll try toasting them first!

When it comes to things like chocolate bars, cookies, brownies, pop-tarts, ect., I almost always pop them in the freezer for a bit because it changes the texture.

Cookies/brownies with chocolate chips/m&ms are the best for this, because the chips get crunchy, while the cookie part is chewier.

I’ll move it to the top of my list!