• Bleeping Lobster@lemmy.world
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    11 months ago

    I’m genuinely struggling to think of anything. I don’t have a lot of loved ones but define them with the criteria “I can be my true self around them”.

    I have definitely lost loved ones because they couldn’t come to terms with who I am (pansexual). Many people hate you for being bi, let alone pan. My sympathies to all those who have to hide, have been there. I’ve lived in rough places where I couldn’t even allow a smidgeon of my true self to emerge, and it kills the soul.

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      11 months ago

      I don’t mean to be offensive, but what is the difference between bi and pan? It always seemed a meaningless term because bi already covers basically everything.

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        11 months ago

        what the other guy said. it’s different for everyone. But some part of me identifying as bi not as pan is also self-reflective. It’s because it’s the term I want. Like how someone can be Alexander, Alex, Al, Xander, AJ… yet we don’t question the difference, we just instinctively understand it’s a preference.