• CileTheSane@lemmy.ca
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    2 days ago

    Don’t understand why this makes OP “like Hitler”. The only way this is a problem for a guy is if he is a douchebag.

    “Hi (name), I enjoyed talking to you last night. Would you like to go out for dinner sometime?”

    “You texted the wrong number, this is your mom.”

    The horror!

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      17 hours ago

      Y’all are weird.

      My opening move is always pictures of my gooch with no message like a man of true refinement.

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      “Son, I thought you’d never ask. Dinner sounds lovely. We’ll have some chicken, maybe some sex. Let’s just see where it goes.”

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      2 days ago

      L take. You honestly expect someone to speak to a potential date in the same tone as to their own mother, and that there should be no risk of sending something that would be inappropriate or something that would otherwise be awkward if sent to the wrong person (especially to their mother)?

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        sending something that would be inappropriate

        If your first text to someone is inappropriate that explains why she gave the fake number.

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        You do sound super cringe right now, so an example might help clarify what I think you’re trying to say.

        There is a huge space for conversation that is both very appropriate and not creepy for a potential person of interest which would make you embarrassed if your mother read it. Especially depending on your mother. Some people have mothers who would critique the writing, others have mothers who might tell them to find Jesus. There are many many many valid reasons to send something different to a woman you wanted to date vs your mother without just jumping straight to dick pics.

        And on the flip side, this is super passive aggressive douchebag behavior from the woman. I’m aware that some women perceive danger any time they look at any man and can conceptually understand things like “I didn’t feel comfortable not giving him some number in case he kills me” … that’s clearly not the case here. If I were afraid of a man, I would not attempt to do something that will only piss that man off. This is actively antagonizing someone you don’t like, not the behavior of someone who is scared.

        That having been said I don’t actually get wtf is going on this meme and why Hitler is involved so maybe I’m missing something.

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          17 hours ago

          And on the flip side, this is super passive aggressive douchebag behavior from the woman.

          Women don’t get to the point of giving fake numbers (Or changing contact info in your phone) unless they have already declined / tried to get away and this guy isn’t taking ‘no’ for an answer.

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            13 hours ago

            I mean the rest of that paragraph conveys my opinion on that subject pretty well and this does nothing to counter that opinion.

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              9 hours ago

              There are reasons to not want to give her number other than fear for her life. For example: “this guy strikes me as a douchebag that will send dick pics.”

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                How is that any different from antagonizing someone because you don’t like them? I guess you could call it antagonizing someone because you think you won’t like them? Or because you think they might do something to make you not like them?

                I never said not liking them was unjustified, just that the specific switch described isn’t easily justifiable.

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          Regarding me sounding cringe, well, to each their own I guess.

          As for the rest of what you said, yes, I agree with that, and that is indeed what I was thinking of. People have different mothers, and different relationships with their mothers.