Ask you friends about the kinds of women they like (I’m assuming Incels are almost all strait guys). I almost guarantee most of them will have different preferences. Look around at the people you know with partners. The whole spectrum of people out there have all different kinds of partners. You don’t have to be a Chris Hemsworth type, or a Taylor Swift type. Most people aren’t professionally hot, and they still date and fuck all the time. Re calibrate your expectations, for you partner sure, but also yourself.

I’ve noticed women seem to fall into the “one ideal body” kind of thinking quite often as well. Obviously, the resulting breakdown takes different forms than inceldom, but they’re still plenty bad.