I’m turning 50 soon, and almost all of this hits close to home. Almost all. My media consumption is as it’s always been: new books all the time. But also no TV, and I know all about a given movie from reading a few reviews, not actually watching it.
I’m confused by the fuck/fight portion. Is it normal to want to fuck or fight every person who maintains eye contact? Have I been unknowingly threatening/coming into all of my work colleagues?
There’s a difference between respectlfully attentive eye contact (flits to other things occasionally, but refocuses), fighting eye contact (straight staring, tense facial expression), flirting eye contact (flits between eyes and lips, soft facial expression), and autistic eye contact (direct and unwavering eye contact that drills into your soul for seemingly no reason).
Most likely, everyone just knows (at least implicitly) that you are autistic.
A lot of Zoomer/Alphagens have said in surveys that the perceive prolonged or maintained eye contact in a conversation as a sign of aggression or attraction. I was using hyperbolic language for brevity.
Its almost like neurotypicals just think they know what ‘normal’ body language is, when in actuality they all disagree about almost all of it, each have their own plethora of weird quirks and ideas, and its just that they assume their standard is correct, because they hardly ever consciously, actively think about or analyze body language.
The streak of white in my beard?
The fact that 75% of my media consumption is things I’ve already seen before?
I can maintain eye contact in a conversation and at no point do I want to fuck/fight the other person nor do I believe they want to fuck/fight me?
I can maintain friendships.with people who do not share all of my views on things, with a select view even having opposing views?
Comfort wins over style every time, with zero exceptions?
I’m turning 50 soon, and almost all of this hits close to home. Almost all. My media consumption is as it’s always been: new books all the time. But also no TV, and I know all about a given movie from reading a few reviews, not actually watching it.
I’m confused by the fuck/fight portion. Is it normal to want to fuck or fight every person who maintains eye contact? Have I been unknowingly threatening/coming into all of my work colleagues?
There’s a difference between respectlfully attentive eye contact (flits to other things occasionally, but refocuses), fighting eye contact (straight staring, tense facial expression), flirting eye contact (flits between eyes and lips, soft facial expression), and autistic eye contact (direct and unwavering eye contact that drills into your soul for seemingly no reason).
Most likely, everyone just knows (at least implicitly) that you are autistic.
A lot of Zoomer/Alphagens have said in surveys that the perceive prolonged or maintained eye contact in a conversation as a sign of aggression or attraction. I was using hyperbolic language for brevity.
Oh no. I worked so hard to be able to maintain eye contact in conversations (autistic) and now I’m questioning it.
Its almost like neurotypicals just think they know what ‘normal’ body language is, when in actuality they all disagree about almost all of it, each have their own plethora of weird quirks and ideas, and its just that they assume their standard is correct, because they hardly ever consciously, actively think about or analyze body language.