The older I get the less I think this stuff matters. I was driving myself insane in high school thinking I’d fallen behind my peers for not being sexually active. In hindsight I was too immature for a romantic relationship at that age and wanted one for the wrong reasons. Lost my virginity the summer after school ended, in the holidays before university started, but despite being in a loose relationship, it was pretty forgettable. Couple drunken one night stands after that too, which again felt like going through the motions. A year later, I ended up meeting my partner and everything about my sexuality just clicked. Sex with the right person is like a different activity altogether.

Now I’m in my 30s, I wonder if bad sex is worth having on the path to good sex. Maybe past experience takes away the pressure somewhat but then the right person will also make any hangups you’ve got evaporate. Sex has an inherently silliness as your body kind of gets possessed and you find yourself making animal type faces or noises - a lot of the intimacy comes from being comfortable enough around the other person to behave disinhibitedly without judgement.

By no means am I saying that people should wait till marriage or whatever! Only wanted to share my personal experiences. Maybe some of the regretful virgins in this thread haven’t met someome who clicks with them yet.