This one’s a pet peeve, especially if the person is with me. IMO it’s one of the easiest ways to discover your friend likely has zero game with people who aren’t paid to be nice to them.
In case you feel called out and are wondering
“What, so bartenders and waitstaff are totally off-limits?”
Of course not! You can shoot your shot, just try to keep it holstered until you’re (1) on even footing instead of a customer-host advantage and (2) aren’t cornering them in a place they must stay to make a living.
For example, you could hold off until the bill is paid and/or they’re off the clock, then ask for digits on your way out (signaling you have no intention of bothering them further if there’s no interest). Or maybe try giving your number instead. Totally up to them then.
Of course, if they shoot their shot first, rules of engagement are suspended. Mine did that many years ago and I’ve been head over heels ever since.
This one’s a pet peeve, especially if the person is with me. IMO it’s one of the easiest ways to discover your friend likely has zero game with people who aren’t paid to be nice to them.
In case you feel called out and are wondering “What, so bartenders and waitstaff are totally off-limits?”
Of course not! You can shoot your shot, just try to keep it holstered until you’re (1) on even footing instead of a customer-host advantage and (2) aren’t cornering them in a place they must stay to make a living.
For example, you could hold off until the bill is paid and/or they’re off the clock, then ask for digits on your way out (signaling you have no intention of bothering them further if there’s no interest). Or maybe try giving your number instead. Totally up to them then.
Of course, if they shoot their shot first, rules of engagement are suspended. Mine did that many years ago and I’ve been head over heels ever since.