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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • Here are a couple of items that I wish that I had picked up earlier. They are not required, but they greatly simplified my life.

    • headlamp: Trying to balance or prop up a flashlight while working used to result in so much frustration.
    • tin sheers: I love these so much that they have replaced scissors in most day-to-day applications
    • flexible drill bit extender: So many screws are in places inaccessible to a drill body. This inexpensive item solves that problem. Magnetic wristbands: Keep those screws and bits from getting lost.
    • level that is at least 2ft long: I really appreciate having a level that can span two studs (16")
    • precision / mini needle nose pliers: I don’t need them often, but when I do I am always happy that I have them
    • painters tape: I am surpised how often I use painters tape for all sorts of applications



  • None.

    When a man lies he murders some part of the world.

    – Merlin (Excalibur, 1981)

    If you know something to be false and try to pass it off as truth, that is lying. It doesn’t matter how you phrase it or try to hide behind symantics like “I’m just asking questions” or “it’s just a hypothetical”.

    That being said, it does not mean that you cannot contribute to a conversations if you are not an authority on a subject. If you are not sure or cannot recall a credible source for your information you can preface your comment with something like “I never confirmed the validity of this, so I may be completely wrong, but…”.











  • Invictus by William Ernst Henley

    When I was younger I clung to it’s message of perseverance. It ended up being the first poem that I ever memorized.

    Out of the night that covers me
    Black as the pit from pole to pole,
    I thank whatever gods may be
    For my unconquerable soul.
    
    In the fell clutch of circumstance,
    I have not winced nor cried aloud.
    Under the bludgeonings of chance
    My head is bloody, but unbowed.
    
    Beyond this place of wrath and tears
    Looms but the Horror of the shade,
    And yet the menace of the years
    Finds, and shall find, me unafraid.
    
    It matters not how strait the gate,
    How charged with punishments the scroll,
    I am the master of my fate
    I am the captain of my soul.
    


  • This sounds like it was a bad match for you and you are better off without them.

    In my opinion, the criteria for a successful relationship is one that encourages growth. It should provides a safe space where differences, changes and mistakes are accepted without judgement. Above all, you feel loved and supported. From your limited description it does not sound like he provided any of that.

    I think I’m just meant to be single.

    You are 20. You are likely still discovering the type of person you are and developing the strength and tools to be that person in the face of adversity. I think that you should enjoy being single and focus on you, not some “us”.

    Love who you are, build a strong and healthy relationship with yourself, and realize that you deserve somebody who will honor and respect all of you not just the bits that are convenient for them.