Yup. I’m Bo7a.

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  • Atheist here. Married a Christian who was into missions, taught Sunday school, etc…

    Love is love and we don’t choose who we fall in love with.

    I never once tried to convert her, or call out her beliefs. But over time (she was from a small religious (mennonite) town) she came to see on her own how the indoctrination was just a cover for a lot of evil shit that went down in the church, and in its name.

    She is no longer Christian, and veers towards agnosticism, but when pressed would say she is now more aligned with animism, or the idea that nature is the only ‘face’ of a god that is not a conscious being, but is just the culmination of all the processes in nature.



  • Neighborhoods full of community became individuals in houses.

    I’m about 12 years older than you and what you have written pretty much sums up my life on the outskirts of the South Shore of Montreal. All those Creeks are gone. The train tracks that used to support 20 kids playing everyday have been fenced off. The BMX track is now a golf course. And the forests are all reduced to a line of single trees dividing subdivisions.

    But the quoted bit is the part that hurts my heart the most. I grew up in a community. When I had my kids I created a community for other kids and their families to feel part of.

    We would do small cookouts, babysit for each other, play music together. Once in awhile someone would pop out a projector and bring it outside and we’d have a community movie night.

    My kids’ kids don’t see this. They live in basically the same place but the community left and only the individuals remain behind.




  • Yup.

    I smoked a pack a day for roughly 30 years. My night time breathing was getting ugly and my wife would sometimes get woken up by the sound of my wheezing.

    Every method of quitting failed me except vaping. I started as most do with a high nicotine vape juice that tasted like tobacco, but after about a month I swapped and started going lower and lower nicotine and change the flavor from tobacco to a custardy type.

    2 months of that got me off the cigs. Two more months got me down to zero nicotine. Two or three more months after that I was done.

    I have been off cigs for 7 years.

    My breathing no longer feels wet or difficult at night. And My yearly health tests all come back the same as a non-smoker.











  • Why not consult the people who actually know their stuff?

    I mean questioning as in second-guessing the people who actually know stuff. Not asking experts for their honest thoughts.

    Don’t you think that management could use your help and advice to make good strategic decisions in the long term?

    Management is one thing - C-levels is yet another kettle of fish.

    In my experience C-levels rarely want the technical answer to a question, and will be personally insulted / defensive if the answer is something they don’t understand. And they will ask their questions in such a way as to insult the expert. Two negative results that don’t help the business in any way.

    But Dept heads and the PM office will often be able to explain why certain choices were made, and how that aligns with the business needs, without the complexities that cause misunderstanding between two people of such wildly divergent skillsets.

    Now if the CEO can also write the code, or run the wetlab instruments, and really does want the nitty-gritty, complex technical answer, that is a different story. And rarely the case in my career.


  • Long term strategic thinking, experience to understand when trends and short-term solutions would be long-term mistakes, and the ability to avoid directly questioning someone with a skillset they don’t have themselves about technical or complex issues.

    Go through an intermediary. Like a department head.

    The developers, engineers, and architects don’t need your help, they need you to set logical long-term goals, hire good department heads, and schmooze with other CEOs in the same space.