when replying that way in any way, on text or actually just saying “cool”. my friends say cool a lot and I really don’t mind it and my partner says it too but some people have thought it was rude and I had a friend say “that’s what I say when I don’t give a damn”.

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        Then it’s context. If you’re going for the excited delivery, try throwing in a ! or a “That’s” beforehand otherwise it could be misinterpreted as uncaring or dismissive.

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        To be honest I think it’s the trailing full stop that does that. Over text I find that usually comes across like you’re trying to shut down the conversation (even when you’re not)

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        If it’s saying “cool” as an end to the conversation then it’s usually pretty rude. You need to show a bit of interest with a quick follow up like “how did you get it?” or “it took you a while?” and then ending the conversation is fine.

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        I’ve heard from Gen Z that ending a text response with a period is passive aggressive. So “cool” may have seemed glib on its own, but the punctuation might be giving an additional, if unintentional, tone

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            To be fair, I am also a millennial, but most of my friends were surprised when I told them about that correction I received from the younger generation. I guess that says more about my friends than millennials overall lol

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          My wife does that. She’ll say she’s not mad and that she’s fine but the messages start ending with a.

          Thats when I know im in trouble.

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        To make sure I don’t mean it to be sarcastic, I usually say “Cool cool”. That usually goes over nicely

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    You need to find ways to convey your intended tone of voice, that’s just the way it is. You could add a smiley. Even “Cool!” already looks a lot more enthusiastic than a dry “Cool.” with a full stop.

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    When “cool” is clearly an understatement about something negative or is in response to being stonewalled it is rude, otherwise it is chill.