The problem really stems from men being given a strongly conflicted message of what ‘being a man’ means, particularly in the ‘default’ spaces. There is still a very strong undercurrent, at least in America, that men are supposed to be this strong, independent, stoic figure relying on themselves. Without a reinforcing support to acknowledge that asking for help is ok it’s easy to leave just as conflicted as one comes in.

Censoring opposing opinions isn’t an answer, but leaving them to their own devices in the public spaces is just as bad or worse. There needs to be a reconciliation between the warring perspectives if any kind of progress is going to happen.