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Diffuse can be used as a verb meaning “to spread out” or an adjective meaning “not concentrated.” It is often confused with defuse, which can only be a verb. The original meaning of defuse was “to take the fuse off a bomb,” but the word now usually means “to make less dangerous or tense.”

It’s missing a comma

Tldr “In this moment, I am euphoric. Not because of any phony god’s blessing. But because, I am enlightened by my intelligence”

Yeah seconded… That worked for me.

I spent a bit of time going through your post history to get an understanding of your background

In short I think your life experiences mean you’ve lost all trust in men. Not just your direct experiences but what you’ve observed in others.

As a result you enter each interaction assuming the worst. Every male social worker you engage with will confirm this pattern because that’s what you’re looking for. The - ah fuck here we go again - feeling.

For them, and I don’t expect you to have empathy for them, this is what they live - the outcomes of other mens behaviours. But - they were there and they tried. That is something.

You have changed quite a lot of your original post.

Story time.

During a conversation amongst friends the topic of male on female violence came up. there was recently a stabbing attack in Australia where a schizophrenic man stabbed and killed multiple women in a Sydney shopping centre.

A female friend raised the statistic that 26 women had been killed in the first 114 days of 2024. She made a point of saying Every 4.38 days a woman is violently killed

I asked - because I didn’t know - Is that like heaps more than last year?how many people would normally die in the same period?

She said "that’s a pretty misogynistic thing to say”

So I googled it and I can’t even find the homicide rate in Australia for 2024.

I am really fucking irritated about this. I assume she had assumed from my question that I was waving off the importance of gender in gendered violence but how that translates into misogyny is beyond me

Very small is 3 people. It’s a small company.

My experience working in a dev company exactly that size -

Pros

Less dead wood (people not carrying their own weight).

Everyone knows everyone well, it’s a tight team

Think it, do it - quick to develop and respond

Less pressure

Feels a bit like a family

More chilled than corporate esp. working from home

More support of networking and linking up with industry peers

Higher degree of trust and support

Way more latitude to do what you want to do

Easy to influence senior leadership

Can offer things like equity etc

If you’re a high performer you will be noticed

Way less red tape

A lot more trust

Company can prosper if everyone works hard

Cons

Company favourites

Can be quite political, although far less so than some large organisations I’ve worked for

Less cover if you’re on leave or similar

Harder to get some things done if money is needed (lower budgets and thinner reserves)

Lower remuneration, fewer levers to pull to get a salary increase

More drama with paychecks etc

Fewer higher skilled people to learn from

Culture can go sideways quickly

Nowhere near the same level of support and benefits provided by the big companies

Tend not to attract the best and brightest talent

Comoany more impacted by economic conditions

It also greatly depends on you and your preferred style. Some people just outright don’t like working for big businesses and prefer smaller gigs.

Mate you have to try it. It’s amazing.

If you want to step it up a both add vegemite. Legit off changing.

In short, because people have different values and are motivated by different things.

Doing something that aligns with your values can be deeply fulfilling! Faith, charity, community, financial independence, respect etc.

Note that there isn’t anything objectively right or wrong about this, or the things that people value, it just is. You might value solitude and rest.

Head to personalvalu.es for examples of values.

None of this matters. Every part of your existence is electrical impulses and chemicals reactions.

Can I ask - what do you assume happens in a reference check?

Even worse than that - I wear SHOES in the OFFICE. How disgusting is that??!!??

Why do people go barefoot in public

Why do people wear shoes in the office

Why dont3 I ask women if they’re pregnant

Because arbitrary customs that exist which might have a good reason behind them but largely have become things that are considered polite or rude, both of which are societal concepts which themselves are worthy of questioning

I’m just baffled. It seems unnecessarily cruel.

But it exists in your head, right? Like you have mentally categorised an age of people as boomers, and you’re associating a behaviour with that category?

The reason I say is that age is also a protected category…

Do you call them boomers to their faces?

Thing that did it for me - world health organisation guidance that there is no safe dose for alcohol. Any amount has risk.

A lot of really tough grown up shit is coming. You’re going to have to make hard decisions. You kind of have to work it out as best you can.

Always remember that this, too, shall pass.

I think it’s not feasible to stop or control it, for several reasons -

1. People are motivated to consume ai porn
2. There is no barrier to creating it
3. There is no cost to create it
4. There are multiple generations of people who have shared the source material needed to create it.

We joke about rule 34 right, if you can think of it there is porn of it. It’s now pretty straightforward to fulfil the second part of that, irrespective as to the thing you thought of. Those pics of your granddsd in his 20s in a navy uniform? Your high school yearbook picture? Six shots of your younger sister shared by an aunt on Facebook? Those are just as consumable by ai as tay tay is.