Oh yes absolutely, I agree that environmental factors play a role, and that role varies in intensity and direction. Looking at what limited historical evidence I know offhand it appears that the female form has been more consistently sought after. Of course, this could be due to the fact that my historical context are the Romans, Greek, parts of indo-asia, and a sprinkling of Japan. So a rather wide swath of places like South America and Africa aren’t really known.

I don’t have enough knowledge. It just seems from what I do know that there is some significant focus on this, or maybe just less focus on males in general.

This is interesting. Bear with me, it’s 2am, I’m overtired, and this is purely for discussion. Also, this caught the attention of my adhd, so if I try to ignore it I probably won’t sleep at all. Anyway, I wonder if it has some basis on how sexuality is represented in the brain in gay men vs gay women. I’m reasoning this because, well…

1. Lesbians: Like the boobas and butts of other women. According to reports women also tend to swing more loosely with their sexuality.

2. Straight Women: Even women who identify as straight can be attracted to other women sexually, just not intimately. They like to also look.

3. Gay Men: From my experience in life, on Reddit, and here on Lemmy, gay men tend to lack similar appreciation for women. Predictably they find other men to be all the rage. There seems to be a more stringent sexual and intimate preference.

4. Straight Men: Yet while straight men like the ladies, we also now know a larger population of males tend toward bisexual curiosity. We are also aware of the sexual repression still prevalent, though arguably less so than ever before.

So what am I getting to? Well, I believe that either gender has a genetic disposition towards the feminine form. On the same tree, both genders tend to enjoy the male form on the same level less. Could this be linked to some ancient survival mechanism a la reproduction? Why does it appear that the woman body is more popular with three of the four major categories and yet to gay men more often completely unremarkable?

I dunno, my brain is yelling at me to sleep. Could anyone add anything? I’m mostly curious and promise I’m not attempting to head in some unknown terrible conclusion someone is bound to try and rope it all into.

You can tell I’ve had some interesting responses from people on some subjects.

That little clicker in the brain that goes off when you’ve had enough doesn’t really work for me. I have to feel physically full or I still feel hungry. Even worse, my dopamine levels are garbage and eating makes me feel good.

Not saying this doesn’t work. Only that I’m far from the only one where it is this simple.

It’s not REALLY incest that turns them on usually. It’s the deep taboo of the potential act itself. Thus plenty of people are turned on by the thought when it involves others, and plenty more are turned off when it comes to their own family. Similar can be said for a lot of sexually charged taboo subjects.

I was blessed with a strong body. Even as I age my reflexes are still there. My whole body coordination still exists. I am still strong, physically adaptable, and can lose weight easily. Any physical activity is not yet out of reach I’ve found. However…

My metabolism has slowed.

Injuries heal slower.

I have some pains I didn’t have before.

I do get tired more easily.

It catches us all in different ways. I’ve been luckier than most in some aspects, feel it I still do and it’ll only get worse.

I must be behind. I’ve been under the impression that pulling people in on a minor less meant greater margins. Perhaps COVID had a significant adverse impact on that as well.

The literal entirety of the retail market across the planet has a concept called a “loss leader”. You take a monetary hit on Product A with the expectation that people will come in for that AND by virtue of the service being readily available, also buy Product B, C, D, etc. I imagine, if done with minimal intrusiveness, Microsoft could easily do the same with Windows.

On paper as a concept it works. I’m not sure I’m savvy enough to understand the actual issues though.

Any document for doctors who will actually listen and not make incredibly fucking idiotic observations about completely irrelevant medical topics? Asking for at least half the population of women in the U.S. who have gone in with a legit problem and been verbally pushed aside and not listened to.

“When was your last period?”

“I came in to be prescribed anti-depressants. I have been officially diagnosed.”

“Yes yes, but how is your uterus?”

“I am going to need anti-psychotics if you keep this up.”

Whoaaa whoa, whoa now. I don’t want the block demolished. Psycho old man strength vs shooty patootie police? I was just there for an oil change and to check on some potential damage.

I was getting my vehicle worked over recently. At the time I was listening to a podcast. A couple other people, probably early 50s were chatting. The old dude in the corner, likely around 70-80 was just sitting there hands empty, looking around, reading nothing like some kind of psychopath.

For 40 minutes.

He did nothing.

It was honestly rather impressive.

I mean have them and have working “them” are entirely different monsters.

Varies on where I’m at. One thing I can do no matter where I happen to be is allow my body to lose its tension. This is a learned skill. Focus your mind on preferably a major muscle to start, and just will it to begin relaxing. I like imagining I’m becoming more liquid and that the stress I’m holding is draining away. It’s a lighter, though similar, feeling you get when your body is just exhausted and you lay down.

This is a part of a series of coping mechanisms I’ll choose from when my anxiety begins to peak.

The wild part is it didn’t hurt. I don’t remember any pain at all. Just an intense knowledge that something was very wrong and I needed to get away as quickly as I could. But like no matter how hard I tried my body would not listen until that signal I mentioned hit my hand and I let go.

I was also surrounded by people and not a single person noticed.

But yeah, Iiii wouldn’t repeat the experience.

Electricity. Hand curled around it to grab and got rooted. I still remember the sensation of my repeating mental command to “LET GO” feeling as if it was slowly travelling down my arm. Weird is a word that comes to mind.

I don’t know how it is in Germany, though I am convinced our methods in the U.S to educate and school kids and teens actively hurt critical thinking skills. They’re not taught to make decisions. They’re taught to follow set rules, ask for permission, and be ashamed if they fail. They’re not taught to learn, they’re taught to work.

Sooo I can cause what honestly feels like a small and constant electrical current flow through any part of my body. If I center this feeling on my chest it is easily more prominent than anywhere else with my head being second. Extremities are dead last. If I am hooked up to a heart monitor I can make it freak out at will. Any location I focus it on tends to want to tense up.

I like to tell people this is the result of me grabbing onto a metal item when I was younger that was still hot. Couldn’t let go for a solid 6-10 seconds, can’t say exactly how long. What I am able to do feels very similar.

Specific? Not much. We’re too late on this one. What we can do is stop bickering and slap fighting in a corner and come together to help ensure people like this are held accountable more often. It’s a road we need to walk, not a single instance or single situation that will help solve the larger systemic issues.

Mine too comes from a place and person who does not have the power to deliver proper punishment, as an individual. Collectively, we do have a voice. We just have to use it correctly. Not just for this, for all things we view as evil. By speaking as one.

There are times those of us who aren’t total psychopaths are also a bit too lenient.

Animals are still animals. It isn’t dishonest to say that we should respect them and their space through understanding and recognizing their behavior. Don’t allow your love for an animal cloud the basic judgment that every animal may have its moment. Don’t be afraid, just be aware.