I’d like to believe that, but some people I have met who are not struggling for resources and had kind and loving families are still somehow just some selfish motherfuckers. I don’t know where they got that trauma from that made them want to hurt others so badly.

Some days I really deeply contemplate just getting a canister of helium and an exit bag.

It seems like most humans honestly are not that interested at all in things like history, the value of community, involvement with others, social and emotional support, and are generally just selfish living-perpetually-in-the-moment idiots that willfully ignore the implications of anything they do and endlessly play the victim.

It’s honestly a drag to realize how many of our species continue to be backwards knuckle dragging slack-jawed yokels who get positively furious when anyone calls them out on how absolutely fucking stupid they are. How dare you call them stupid and hurt their feelings! It’s their right to be a an absolute fucking idiot and you’re the one out of line for calling attention to it! They couldn’t possibly try to not be a mendacious fucking moron! You’re the person who is wrong for noticing!

or made public—privacy is always temporary.

Personal opinion, this is much more applicable to paper data than it is to digital data.

Magnetic tape storage has one of the longest lifespans for storage before data corruption and even that seems to at best be about thirty years. Even with ideal conditions for storage this is a very short shelf life.

Without regular backups digital data degrades rather quickly and is difficult to recover after corruption.

Beyond that quickly changing technology standards makes it harder to recover old data. PATA/IDE was the standard 20 years ago, how many people realistically have the tools available to recover an IDE drive when all they have is a slick laptop with a USB-C port? Specialized tools must be used to even recover from recent types of media.

*laughs in private tracker community

Plenty of trackers have gone down and taken their entire history with them. when baconBits shut down, the admins toyed with the idea of having a backup of the forums for some people who wanted it, but that never happened. Maybe it lives on inside some hard drive squirreled away somewhere, but since the forums were private and only accessible to members, they were never scraped and any history of them officially doesn’t exist.

Not especially, I’ve always had claustrophobia in large crowds, even stuff like concerts. I’m maybe too keenly aware of how easily people can get trampled in crowds.

Man that’s some straight gullshit.

Soulseek.

The wifi rollout thing is tricky… Especially because who do you entrust the administration to? Technically whoever is managing it can see everything everyone in the subdivision does online, and since it’s all shared, could be doing packet sniffing to de-obfuscate your traffic and if they’re untrustworthy, potentially be stealing your PII. They’re already going to have a lot of your PII simply from knowing who you are and where you live, but basically having your entire internet history at their fingertips no less.

It’s part of why I refuse to move in somewhere that someone else controls the connection, literally for that reason. I want my own private connection because I don’t trust other people with this.

That’s… Depression.

However, I am not a psychologist. Either way, those are not healthy thinking patterns and you should probably see a therapist to find out in more detail what is happening in your own mind before jumping to a relationship. Mostly because those kind of thoughts aren’t going to magically stop once you’re in a relationship, you’ll just be doing the same thing… just with a partner, who may well be understandably confused and hurt by such thinking.

I strongly suggest finding a therapist you like and trust… and I understand that’s not always easy. It’s definitely easier said than done.

I’d find it embarrassing because I’m gross.

It sounds like you’re suffering from depressive issues. Everyone deserves love and nearly everyone is sexually attractive to at least someone. With roughly 4 billion potential mates (give or take a few hundred million), you have what is honestly near infinite possibilities for finding someone who loves you for who you are.

However, it might help to get help for the depression first. Anyway, everyone deserves love and to be desired. That includes you.

You have been single for ten years, it’s time to free yourself and at least try to find someone. As someone else who is single and also struggles with depression and self-image issues, I wish you all the best.

A lot of people make posts and then delete the post and/or their entire account, nuking large threads leaving them with the title “Permanently Deleted.”

Words from different countries? That’s cute. Kawaii, even.

Sorry to hear that, you got an upvote from me at least. (Downvotes don’t federate to blahaj and you can’t downvote from blahaj)

This is a much fairer and more well reasoned take than what the other fellow said.

“Dad, How Do I?” Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNepEAWZH0TBu7dkxIbluDw

Jesus Christ, fuck science and evidence, I guess. There’s a reason I included that. But sure, let’s go off one assholes anecdote that “ADHD people are the best at multitasking, we thrive at it” and everyone else is just making an excuse for their shortcoming of not having ADHD. Give me a break dude.

And for another anecdote, literally nobody I know who has ADHD is loved at their job for having it. They all struggle to hold jobs.

Re-reading my original comment, I can see how you got that implication. I guess the point is that these men aren’t actually compensating for anything, that’s potentially a misreading of why they do what they do. Also only men seem to be concerned with the size of their member, in relation to equating it to partners pleasure. It also seems to be mostly other men who want to ascribe the idea that these men are compensating for something, which returns to the idea that mostly only men seem concerned with this issue because men equate “bigger dick” to “women like this.” There’s a lot of assumptions being played around among the varied groups of men that are all tied to this perception of the size of their penis impacting the pleasure of their lover, and it basically has fuck-all to do with women’s opinions on the matter. The men who are seen as “compensating for something” may actually be the men least impacted by these perceptions, ironically enough, because they simply don’t care.

to multitask with.

Rule 2 of adulting: Stop trying to multitask. Multitasking is a myth and impossible for humans to actually successfully do. The more things you try to do at once, the less effective and capable you are at each individual task. Literally not a single human alive is actually good at multitasking. I understand you have issues, but whether you like it or not, you’re reducing your effective capacity to “get shit done” by choosing to try to do this impossible thing called multitasking.

https://hbr.org/2010/12/you-cant-multi-task-so-stop-tr
https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7075496/
https://health.clevelandclinic.org/science-clear-multitasking-doesnt-work
https://www.npr.org/2008/10/02/95256794/think-youre-multitasking-think-again
https://radius.mit.edu/programs/multitasking-why-your-brain-cant-do-it-and-what-you-should-do-about-it/
https://neuroleadership.com/your-brain-at-work/the-myth-of-multitasking

Have you set up certificates with LetsEncrypt or something similar?

Since you’re running it on your own hardware and obviously have admin privileges, you could try out Certbot:

https://certbot.eff.org/

HTTPS requires signed certificates to be able to connect, that’s part of the trust provided in the security. Also, HTTPS is port 443 while HTTP is port 80.