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Cake day: June 14th, 2023

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  • A friend of mine once described this kind of behaviour as acting like “welfare moms.” While there’s a certain level of sexism there that I am sure she really didn’t mean in the moment, I get the point she was making: parents who sit at home scheming up the next excuse to call social services on that other parent that they pretend to like but also keep an air of superiority about. And that’s all it is. Convincing yourself that you’re better than everyone else not by lifting yourself up, but by tearing others down.

    It’s commen behaviour in narcissists, too. Contrary to popular belief, narcissism is often found in people with low self-esteem. They try to validate themselves by bringing everyone else down below them. It seems like obsession with another person outwardly, but it’s still self-obsession: “this person made me look bad, but they’re so much worse than me. I need to prove it (even to myself).”



  • Don’t you find it tiring? Doesn’t it make you feel like shit when you go back home? Don’t you feel taken advantage of?

    I find it so much more tiring to be caught up in what other people are doing.

    I realized a while ago that life isn’t, and will never be, fair. If I spend all my energy on thoughts that include the word “should,” I won’t have the energy for myself when I need it or others when I believe they deserve it.

    Being anything else just isn’t worth my time or energy and makes me unhappy.


  • Underclocking your CPU like crazy because you don’t want to replace the thermal paste is an insane thing to do, and probably still won’t help, as the thermal paste being gone means there’s nowhere for the heat to go. It’ll just build and build until you hit a spike; you’ll just reach that spike slower. You’re rapidly sacrificing your parts by not just opening it up, cleaning out the dust and replacing the thermal paste, even using some kind of heat-reduction work around.

    85 degrees is high but normal for a component that is pushing it, so software solutions, like underclocking, are viable. 100 degrees is “most computers will turn off to protect the components” territory, suggesting something has gone wrong with your cooling solutions and it really needs to be opened up.

    But, that’s not the question you asked, just a word of warning I felt compelled to add. Depending on the processor and motherboard, there are BIOS solutions and in-OS solutions. Check your mobo for settings in advanced. If they’re there, they’re there. If you’re using an old Ryzen, (I believe the 1000 series is 8 years old now?) there’s an app called AMD Ryzen Master that lets you tweak CPU speeds and voltages. Realistically Google “[CPU name] underclock” and you’ll find a guide that links you to software, if it is available for your processor. I’ve never heard of a catch-all third party software solution for CPU clocking, the way Afterburner does that for GPU.






  • There are a lot of genuine answers to this, but the simplest one is perhaps the best: because who decides which authority is correct?

    Authoritarianism is bad because it gives justification to our bias’.

    The “good” authorities you think of when you ask this question are authorities not because they are authorities, but because they have the knowledge/training/practice/experiences that give them a greater expertise on a given subject. Authoritarianism supposes that, those things aside, there’s something inherently good about someone in a position of authority. This is factually incorrect.

    We (are supposed to) grant authority to those that earn it, and use it responsibility. Likewise we (are supposed to) strip it away from those that abuse it, or fail to maintain strong standards of ethics and practice. Authoritarianism, as a school of thought, discards that process, instead suggesting that the authority is the authority because people need that in their lives. Fuck that.






  • The mods of .ml are pro China/Russia authoritarianists, and will ban you for posting comments that disagree with them. I’ve received a ban for discussing my experiences teaching Taiwanese and Chinese students, because I described the way the Chinese students reacted in the face of evidence that Taiwan is a self-governing sovereign state as “brainwashed.”

    I was banned under rule 1, which is listed as being polite and civil. Trust me when I say I have said far more less polite and civil things directly to mods, so it’s concerning that politely expressing real lived experiences that contradicts their opinions on Chinese authoritarianism is what counts as being rude and uncivil around those parts.

    I haven’t blocked them. Many of those communities include the founders/creators of Lemmy, so to block the community feels disjointed from the app, to me. But I think twice about wasting my time on individual conversations in or from people in .ml.