you might be an introvert, passionate about your job, or simply old enough to disregard friendships at work because you already have enough friends and a family.
The coworkers I like the most are the ones that come to work, don’t like drama, do their job and go home. That’s what I try to do.
However, there are always some established cliques who know how to play the unit / supervisor and get away doing much less, even feeling entitled to order you around, even though they are not your supervisor.
To people who experience this. How do you tolerate it? Even after changing jobs, this can happen at your new workplace, maybe it happens in every workplace?
No no. Thats not how getting older works. See what jappens is, as you get older, you realize that the people you’re friends with are bunch of jackasses. So you stop talking to them.
And then you realize you have less drama in your life. So you kick out more jackasses out of your life.
Pretty soon, your life is much quieter, and drama free. You don’t have to put up with stupid bullshit anymore.
And your family is nice and all, but everybody needs to calm down.
So it’s not that you have enough friends when you’re older. You have less. You just stopped giving a shit.
Thats the beauty of getting older. You stop giving a shit about people that don’t matter.
yes, a very beautiful post.
Lost_My_Mind: how do you do it? Because apparently I’m very thin skinned and overly political statements my coworkers blurt out trigger me or their boring marriage troubles bore me and I find myself trying to control me not to yell ‘I don’t give a f*ck about you, leave me alone’, which of course earns me an invitation with management…
If this is not hyperbole: you are either neurodivergent, an asshole, or a neurodivergent asshole.
Most people don’t want to discuss politics or religion at work, most people don’t really give one sliver of fuck about their coworkers’ personal lives, and most people manage to smile and nod and move on when these things inevitably crop up on the job.
To your original point, there are almost always going to be some combination of people who:
This happens both on the job and elsewhere, because humans are selfish complicated creatures with different experiences and different value systems. You will always have to deal with these situations.
It might be helpful to remember that any action you take is unlikely to change other people for the better (or at least, for your concept of “better”), and will almost always result in negative consequences for yourself.
tl;dr: There’s no magic incantation, you gotta figure out how to deal with bullshit in a way that doesn’t drive you nuts. There is no “fair” workplace.