So you’re mind reading here about other people not wanting new friends. Mind reading is an unhealthy habit and as you can see it’s making your situation worse. Try to stop that first when going to events, you don’t know if they don’t want new friends. I sure as hell never go “I’ve got enough friends”. Look up mind reading as a cognitive distortion, you’re doing it a lot even in these paragraphs
I also think we might be missing something as to why that original friend group formed without you, but you might just be that shy. They might not even know if you want to hang out with them or you seemed really uncomfortable so they assumed you didn’t want to hang out. Either way you can try again with them or move on it’s really no big deal.
Finally you’re in uni and most unis have free therapy provided or other assistance for people. The university wants you to thrive and branch out so seriously look for the help they’re providing. I do highly suggest therapy just for the social anxiety you’ve built up even a few sessions will go a long way for you I bet.
Regarding mind-reading: OP should also keep in mind that these people are probably thinking the exact same thing - shyness often comes off as disinterest.
Think of how you would like them to reach out to you, and then do that.
And definitely agree on therapy. Recently went to therapy myself for something similar, and it does help.
So you’re mind reading here about other people not wanting new friends. Mind reading is an unhealthy habit and as you can see it’s making your situation worse. Try to stop that first when going to events, you don’t know if they don’t want new friends. I sure as hell never go “I’ve got enough friends”. Look up mind reading as a cognitive distortion, you’re doing it a lot even in these paragraphs
I also think we might be missing something as to why that original friend group formed without you, but you might just be that shy. They might not even know if you want to hang out with them or you seemed really uncomfortable so they assumed you didn’t want to hang out. Either way you can try again with them or move on it’s really no big deal.
Finally you’re in uni and most unis have free therapy provided or other assistance for people. The university wants you to thrive and branch out so seriously look for the help they’re providing. I do highly suggest therapy just for the social anxiety you’ve built up even a few sessions will go a long way for you I bet.
Regarding mind-reading: OP should also keep in mind that these people are probably thinking the exact same thing - shyness often comes off as disinterest.
Think of how you would like them to reach out to you, and then do that.
And definitely agree on therapy. Recently went to therapy myself for something similar, and it does help.
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