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Cake day: June 16th, 2023

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  • There are things you have to be prepared for and you will snap at each other at least once, your life will change and there are good and bad things about it. There are a lot of things you can do to help. Most things come down to proper planning and sticking to a rigid schedule for baby while being flexible about what each parent does. As a father be prepared to do 99% of of household things like cooking, shopping, cleaning, and laundry for about the first month.

    • start sleep training early, like week 2 or 3. The earlier you start establishing a schedule the faster it works. Things get vastly easier if they sleep alone through even part of the night.
    • get mom in post partum therapy right away, it’s more of a when not an if that she will experience some. Most experience mild symptoms, but a mom that gets even more fatigued and snippy makes everything more difficult.
    • your free time will drastically reduce, this can be a big source of problems. Especially in the first few months. You can still do things, and you occasionally should, leaving the house is good for everyone, just be flexible with it. Also find something you can do in short bursts for relaxation.


  • Fishing varies wildly depending on the species you are targeting. The best advice is probably to look on YouTube for fishing videos in your area.

    For pan fish baiting a hook and waiting for a bite (possibly using a bobber) generally works well. It’s easy to target them during the breeding season when they make “beds,” at other times you may need to find an area with a drop off or weeds. You generally want your bait to be off the bottom by a reasonable amount.

    For something like bass you tend to use crank/jerk baits that you need to keep moving to entice a hit. You can generally find them in similar areas to pan fish as they eat those species. The idea is generally to pass lures through areas that allow a bass to hide and strike anything that swims by.

    At certain times of the year you can target spawning fish in various rivers. Generally at these times what you use isn’t too important, it’s more about being there when the fish are passing through.




    1. Kids. Being married before you have kids is huge in some states and important in many. In my state unmarried father’s have no rights to children even if they sign the birth certificate. Sure you can adopt, but that’s far more expensive than a marriage certificate.

    2. Protection in the case of breakup or divorce. You have rights to shared property in a divorce, you have no rights to anything you didn’t buy or put in your name otherwise. You can sort of solve this with making a partnership and putting all assets into it, but it’s not quite the same and far more complicated. Also if you aren’t the breadwinner, there isn’t really a way to ensure spousal support without a marriage.

    3. Legal protections. You can’t be compelled to testify against a spouse. While you can do things like medical power of attorney, you don’t get it by default like marriage, which means you either need that document on hand at all times or in an emergency situation you could be prevented access or decision making authority until you provide documentation. There’s also social security, you can draw on a spouse, but there isn’t an equivalent, same for pensions that offer survivor benefits.

    4. Insurance benefits from employers generally require you to be married.



  • The public domain allows free use of anything in it. It allows people to innovate and expand upon established knowledge without having to pay tribute to original creators or their estates.

    Intellectual property was created as a compromise to get people to be more open with their works. It allowed artists and writers to create things without risking their creations copied and losing their livelihood. Similarly inventors were also encouraged to publish how they invented because it granted them a period of exclusive access to controlling that method. In the long term the public benefits by getting access to everything.