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Cake day: May 6th, 2024

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  • Well, my parents divorced when I was 5 and for a while before that there were periods where my dad would leave and then come back. I’d go to his apartment every other weekend. He’s a shitty dad though, so it didn’t really “work.”

    Basically, I was told that my parents were having problems understanding each other (they explicitly said no when I asked if they were falling out of love but I can’t remember exactly what they said was occurring) and it was causing everyone to be sad. So they needed time apart to think. Idk, I handled it fine (I have other childhood issues that fucked me up) but older kids almost always have trouble with it.

    This doesn’t need to be done alone though, there are a lot of professional and online resources for what to say to your kids and what to do now. Also friends and family to talk to, if that’s not too uncomfortable.


  • It’s possible that a trial separation might give you both the space to breathe and find the right words to say. The marriage doesn’t necessarily have to end (especially for insurance purposes here), but you might want to start considering whether the relationship has simply run its course.

    Fostering a strong partnership based on helping your daughter navigate healthily and happily through life might benefit you more than trying to keep propping up an unhappy marriage.

    Also, some couples find new ways to communicate or relate to each other again after dealing with certain issues. There’s not necessarily anything stopping you from resuming the relationship later (obviously I don’t know you or whether there are barriers other than the ones mentioned) when things have potentially become less strained.



  • It’s relatively common where I live, but it’s not often talked about. My adult teeth emerged slightly yellow and my parents had me try to whiten them before being told by a dentist that, in that case, it’s not something you can fix, so I stopped caring.

    Maybe if you have staining from food or smoking it’s different, but to me it seems like a bit of a waste of time in terms of beautification unless you have nothing else on your face you could improve instead. Hair and skin improvements make more of an impact IMO.