With OPs tendency to trickle in less flattering details only after 2-3 comments in, I’m skeptical she’s “forcing” him to do anything. This is a one-sided perspective from someone intentionally devaluing his spouse’s perspective.

On a backpacking trip, the better part of a day away from the trailhead. It came on so quick I didn’t have time to run behind a tree, just dropped pants and let it out in full view of my travel buddies. As embarrassing as it was, it was the right choice. I didn’t have any other pants to change in to and the distance we had to hike out would have led to far more serious health issues had I hiked in dirty pants.

I’m not sure what caused it. I was the only one who got sick. Probably a simple hygiene slip at some point. Someone didn’t clear their hands well enough before cooking, or something made it past the water filters. I’m just glad someone had immodium and everyone gave me their spare fluids and electrolytes. I can see how a person could get really dehydrated really quickly and wind up in trouble.

NGL man, you’re coming across as Defensive Internet Man on this. You two “argue frequently” about this, she “seems to think” mixes are the way to go when it sounds like it’s really only pancake mix that’s hanging you up and you know perfectly well why she likes pancake mix over scratch. She “tried to pull” nostalgia on you as if missing her deceased mother is a trick she’s playing on you.

Amateur advice from someone with no special related experience: any time someone says they like a Thing because it reminds them of Close Dead Relative, maybe just take their word for it and let them be.

Edit: and apparently she’s doing the grocery shopping. I’m starting to wonder who plans the menu throughout the week and how these disagreements are playing out from the spouse’s perspective.

As in when you cook she wants you to use the premade stuff? Why?

You enjoy cooking, she doesn’t. You can cook from scratch, she can heat up the frozen stuff. I don’t see why this is cause for an argument.

There’s more to know if you plan to drive a car.

Four-wheel drive helps to accelerate in icy conditions, it does not help braking.

Make slow, careful changes when it’s snowy or icy. Slow down more than you normally would to take a turn. Give yourself triple the distance to slow to a stop. Don’t turn hard.

Use windshield wiper fluid appropriate for freezing temperatures.

Put any rage or impatience aside and get to where you’re going safely.

If you live in a place that clears the streets and you don’t have to go anywhere, consider staying put. Wait a couple hours until the streets are cleared.

If you’ll be driving somewhere more remote, have clothes and boots appropriate for the weather in case your car breaks down or gets stuck and you have to walk. I also keep a jug of water, flashlight, and blanket/sleeping bag in my trunk during winter for this reason.

Heh, banks are absolute shit at the soft entry points, like calling up with minimal personal information and a teller opening the door wide for you.

There was another person in my hometown with the same name and we used the same bank. They gave her access to my account multiple times. I had long passwords and an account flag reminding the tellers to confirm Date of Birth EVERY TIME. They still let her withdraw several hundred dollars from my account (not that she was trying to to steal my money, just that she requested a withdrawal and they didn’t confirm the right account). Account closed, bank reported, and I am 100% sure they would make the same fuckup today if I gave them the opportunity.

You would be terrified how easy it can be to get access to accounts without a password or even ID.

Fitness: cycles through the year, some combination of running, indoor climbing, rowing or dragonboat, backpacking

Creative: woodcarving, music, gardening

Moneymaker: nope, I am fortunate enough to have one job with good salary. I do not turn hobbies into side hustles.

Instead of moneymaking, the third category I look for is social. Many of my hobbies can be solo, so I want to make sure I’m doing something that has me out meeting new people. And that my socialization doesn’t become predominantly meeting friends in bars.

Just water. Other than coffee in the morning, I mostly drink water.

I sometimes have half-emptied water glasses scattered all over, worst when I’m stressed about something or feeling under the weather.

Lactose-free milk is easy enough to find, but cream is harder to find and is much more expensive here when it is available. Partner also has a preference for plant-based for other reasons, so it’s simplest to keep that on hand so any cooking and baking results in something we can both eat.

He was creepin’ on other customers. When he was asked to tone it down, especially when it came to talking to minors, he got mad and started yelling and shoving chairs.

This morning coffee is so good. Lactose-intolerant partner is gone for a week so I bought real cream to go into it. I don’t mind the plant-based stuff at all, the occasional real cream is all the better.

Sub-zero degree sleeping bag in the trunk of my car, plus a jug of water and some MRE-type food packs with water-activated food warmers. I grew up in a very rural area and got stuck on the side of the road in a blizzard for too long; I came out ok but it was terrifying. Now I live in a densely populated area that doesn’t get blizzards but I still prep.

I used to let my toilet paper run nearly down to zero before I bought another pack. The pandemic lockdown months changed that. I used paper towels and liberated a couple rolls from work back in the day. Now I keep more on hand before triggering next buy. Never again.

I’m a good example of “we prep for our fears”. I also do backcountry backpacking and everyone in that hobby does to some degree. I go out with a nurse sometimes and her first aid kit is nearly three pounds while mine is a couple bandaids and rubbing alcohol swaps.

I send my mom a USB flash drive with photos periodically because it’s easier than getting her to use Google photos and I don’t have to manage more social media garbage.

Depends on context, as always. A user sharing a story on social interaction, gender may be quite important to how they experienced it and how others perceive it. I.e., a post the other day asking about worst dates and the average worst date for men was a woman on coke or a no show. The average worst date for women was about getting sexually assaulted or raped.

Men are victims of those things too and can face different repercussions when they try to pursue help. Understanding their experiences within the context of them being men is also important.

Stripping gender from these stories only obfuscates some of the problems.

If discussing 1:100 there is no individual attention, so why not 1:1,000 or 1:100,000 or just YouTube videos one can watch at their own pace.

In my college lectures of 1:200, there were still separate sessions of 20 students or fewer, led by grad students working for the professor, to offer more individualized help. If that doesn’t happen and it’s just a lecturer talking to a crowd, the ratio is irrelevant.

0/10

Dude tried to rape me. Might be his worst date too because he left with multiple broken fingers and a broken nose. It could have been better for me / worse for him if the cops took it seriously, but the fact that I fought back and he wasn’t actually successful in raping me was enough for the cops to wave it away as a domestic dispute that self-resolved when I left.

I read about and liked the concept of the Fediverse, opened a few accounts across various platforms, quickly got bored with the small userbase. Then reddit did their thing with the API, I wanted to stop using it entirely, and enough people also migrated to Lemmy at the same time that this is now a level of users and activity to hold my interest.

They always look good. Normal day levels of makeup looks great. Special event extra fine makeup looks great. Morning face with no makeup looks great. I just like their face.

Figure out how to make and keep friends. It only gets more difficult as people are out of school, have their own families, have less time for short-notice adventures, etc.

At the same time, figure out what you want in a friend that is worth investing in to you. Not every friend is worth keeping as we all naturally grow in different directions.