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Cake day: June 27th, 2023

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  • That’s where I’m at as well. Could go so many different ways; how do I know someone is intelligent? Do their conversations feel particularly deep to me? Do they invest their money well? Good at memorizing baseball facts?

    At a certain point yeah, obviously if they just have wind blowing around inside their head it’s unlikely that I would find them desirable as a partner. So in a way it is very important to me. But the vast majority of people are capable of nurturing loving and rewarding relationships rooted in who they are as a whole, whether or not they are remarkably intelligent. So in another way it’s not important at all


  • Someone recently spammed a popular community with about a hundred copies of a hate message + an unmarked nsfw image. I reported it as I’m sure everyone else who saw them did, taken down very swiftly, thanks mods.

    But in that case as with many others I think the goal literally is just to put hate and the threat of violence before people’s eyes. Even if only for a few minutes, maybe a vulnerable person sees it and it ruins their day. Real scum of the earth mentality







  • Improving my mental health helped me start exercising, actually. But also now I think staying committed to it generally assists in keeping me mentally well. There are tons of things I do that are somehow easier for me to execute in the context of of training instead of just for their own sake (for whatever reason), such as getting consistent sleep and cutting back on drinking.



  • Gosh yeah that one in particular so many people struggle with. Actually bodybuilding is one of my interests that I mentioned above. Once you look the part a lot of people like to just randomly talk to you about fitness/food/weightloss lol.

    I’ve noticed that almost everybody who says they “cannot lose weight” believes that they are already eating very little. 95% of the time I just nod solemnly. Almost nobody wants advice or would be willing to take it if offered, they just want to vent and feel understood, and that’s fine.

    …but gosh is it frustrating to see so many people give up, and then come up with outlandish justifications as to why it’s just “impossible for some people”. The mind will do amazing things indeed to shield itself from confronting hard truths


  • I think anybody can become like this if they immerse themselves in a bubble. People have an amazing capacity to brainwash themselves and learn the language of their in-group. Then when they encounter the real world and start spewing their jargon that nobody understands we get stuff like this.

    It’s sad but you see it all the time. Basically how every cult works. Or really even how all learning works; I could produce some equally non-coherent strings of words that make perfect sense within the context of my interests. The main difference being that those areas of interest do not exist in isolation from or in opposition to the rest of society. That’s the biggest red flag




  • I think you basically just need experience/practice. Imagine lifeguarding: they don’t just explain it to you and then hope you remember what to do the first time you see someone you think might be drowning. They train you and have you ‘rescue’ people in a controlled environment, so that when the real thing happens, you’re performing something you’ve done many times.

    To put it another way, you don’t want to think faster. You want to have already thought about it, and already prepared for what to do.

    Depending on the extent of what you want to do, maybe a few friends and you can try to rehearse your response. Have them simulate (without telling you exactly when) some of the signs of a seizure, then try to identify it and give their phone a call as if you were calling emergency services.

    If you want to go further you can look into various first aid certs. Most classes are like $20-60, and they’ll be able to prepare you far better than anything else.

    For context: Not the same thing exactly but I had to get first aid certifications in the context of bringing small groups of people into semi-remote areas of nature. Type of thing where you probably have cell service but it may take hours for help to arrive. We did a lot of practice on each other.


  • Three main reasons

    Firstly, it does make you sweat more, which reduces your weight (temporarily). It’s common for people in sports that require a weigh-in to do this and also partially dehydrate themselves before they are weighed to make their weight class.

    Secondly, it’s done by people trying to lose weight in general who have heard about the first group and incorrectly believe inducing sweat this way will speed up their weight loss. The exact opposite is true: by intentionally overheating yourself, you actually reduce the effectiveness of your workout, making your fitness goals harder to achieve in the long run. There are tons of myths like this that seem intuitive but hold a lot of people back.

    Thirdly, people are just self-conscious sometimes and cover up their body