They separate kids out for being “smart”, put them on a pedestal, endlessly gas them up with wildly unrealistic expectations and then only teach them how to be good students at the expense of all social development.
All these kids go into the world thinking that being good at math or memorization is 95% of what it takes to be successful when in reality it’s like 10% intellect and 90% social ability.
The worst part is that these kids usually aren’t even extra smart, they just have more involved parents.
It always ends up that the kid with infinite potential lives up to none of it and has a massive ego complex because they got gaslit into believing their parents pipedreams were realistic and that it’s their fault for not living up to them.
Edit: It’s really funny all the former gifted kids are taking this as a personal attack.
I don’t think that it’s just the gifted kid programs that are causing these issues, I think it’s more foundational than that.
So much of school is focused on rote memorization, test scores, and grades that kids who do well end up having their entire sense of self-worth tied to their grades. Then they get out into the real world and no longer have those academic scores to tell them that they have any value.
It’s how we get stuff like this:
There’s so much more in this discussion like how kids who never are challenged by schoolwork don’t actually learn how to learn and therefore give up on something at the first hint of difficulty or challenge because their brain is conditioned to believe that either you’re instantly good at a thing or you’re a failure forever, or how there’s a real lack of teaching collaborative work in school despite that being like 90% of work in life, but that’s all too much for my tired brain to try to piece together into a comprehensible message. So instead I’ll just end with my usual meme on the subject: Beware, the “gifted kid to burnout trans girl with a praise kink” pipeline is real.
Im not sure you are correct as no one was telling us we would be successful because of these classes when I was in them.
What we DID miss out on was seeing kids learn how to do things we already knew. This would have been very helpful when I got to the point where I didnt immediately understand the lesson and found myself having to learn how to do things years after most kids learn how to be taught to.
The real problem IMO is watching others learn is useful to the process of learning and taking the kids who know the lesson out of the room deprives them of this experience which in the long run creates other problems.
That’s only fair until you consider you may be depriving the accelerated kid of opportunities just for the point of keeping them in the class to inspire others.
In my case being in the accelerated class meant I never learned how to learn and when at 13 I suddenly didn’t immediately understand literally everything in class from the get-go I didn’t know what to do. I never experienced that before. I could read and write in paragraphs at 3 I didn’t watch my peers learn and it was a rough go for a while.
It was cool to have my critical thinking skills developed earlier, as that’s what we did with accelerated students in my town, but IMO I personally might have benefitted by remaining in the class to see how kids learned.
From what I remember it was like 30% autistic kids, 60% helicopter parents and like 10% kids from international schools who were just light years ahead of everyone else.
I think it can be done right but not in an education system that’s so fundamentally shit to begin with.
Engineering advancement inherently means becoming management
Not necessarily, at the company I work for, they have two advancement tracks for engineers: management and individual contributor. The individual contributor track goes something like associate engineer -> engineer -> senior engineer -> principal engineer with a bunch of different sub-tiers in those with raises associated with them. Yeah, you cap out at principal engineer, but at that point, you have a good salary and equity and would be considered a success by most metrics.
Yes any work is going to require collaboration, but that doesn’t necessarily require a lot of social skills. Even the most socially awkward person can explain technical requirements to a colleague and ask them to implement them. There’s a difference between communication skills and social skills, and success in academics requires good communication skills.
I’m not saying social skills aren’t valuable, I’m just saying they aren’t required to succeed in this current capitalist economy.
Ehhh, to each their own. I was in those classes, fully separated streams. No idea why you’d assume having a more interesting class would nix social development. (You can’t learn to socialize if the teacher doesn’t have to slow down?)
Fully wide range of outcomes but a lot of the kids with the potential went and realized it. Sure, not all of us did but from my small circle one’s on the second highest court in Canada, one’s set up a reasonably famous company, one’s a cardiac surgeon etc.
(You can’t learn to socialize if the teacher doesn’t have to slow down?)
When do you talk to to other kids if not during class? Lunch was for study group, where we didn’t talk, and we didn’t get free periods or anything because it was just more class.
I’m talking about school in the US, I’m not sure how Canadian schools are structured.
In my school, they pulled all the “smart” kids(most just had parents who did 90% of the work) out of normal classes, gave them 2-3x the workload and moved the coursework up by half a grade.
I’m sure there are better programs but widely that’s how things were for American gifted students.
Many of the people I knew in those programs either turned out average or did extremely poorly because they had a massive ego with no social skills.
It’s to the point where I feel like the people who became successful were successful in spite of the gifted program and the people who turned out to be failures did so because of the gifted program.
It will be different in different places but this has been my experience in the US.
In the same way American schools aren’t representative of Canadian schools - your experience at one American school isn’t representative of all American schools. Maybe cut back on the blanket statements about American schools.
It’s pointless to point out that your singular experience at one school isn’t indicative of American schools at large? Knowing there are other people who have their own experiences in the world is a critical development stage you should have reached by now.
You know, everyone else in this thread has come with levelheaded replies sharing their experiences with gifted programs, and it’s a mix of some schools who did it right and others who did it wrong. All you’ve replied with is obstinate vitriol. Starting to think you’re just jealous you didn’t make it into the gifted programs…
Instead of all these random gifted programs that are all or nothing, we need to start treating earlier grades like high school where some students take advanced classes and others do the bare minimum.
This is such a horrible take. Gifted programs offer accelerated offerings for children who are so goddamn bored in normal level classes. They allow people who to get ahead, give additional opportunity for faster advancement, and really don’t even separate kids that much.
To put it longer “bored and taking a year of schooling in an already fully understood subject where the teacher spends 3x as long as necessary on each topic”.
‘That much’ is a sliding scale. A kid can be removed from class for a few hours a week, or per day, or altogether and put in programs at special schools.
Outside of grade skipping, the majority of gifted programs are stem(not that there isn’t lit gifted, but they tend to start later), I don’t think being fully accelerated out of your classes is a common “gifted” experience.
So? There’s also a ton of kids who did actually leverage that to get through college faster and do well. Bitchy people gonna bitch. Gifted program didn’t accelerate my progress in life, but it certainly did help me not sit there bored in a low level math class all day with people who couldn’t or didn’t care to do basic equations.
Now the “former gifted” bullshit is so ingrained in people’s identity that any criticism of the program is perceived as a direct attack
The criticism in question is not “any” criticism, it’s an implication that such programs should be fully removed. There’s plenty of valid criticism to be had, like letting parents force their kids into these programs without proper testing, or the socioeconomic disparities that are present in such programs.
Your source is not available through my college, and it’s locked behind a paywall. Without being able to read beyond the abstract, it seems to be focused on early year including kindergarten gifted programs, rather than a more generalized take that includes middle school and highschool.
If it’s just elementary school, I will agree that gifted programs loss of socialization can be much more important even for those small time periods. However, your source does not seem to be making a general statement of all gifted programs.
“Gifted” programs are so fucked up.
They separate kids out for being “smart”, put them on a pedestal, endlessly gas them up with wildly unrealistic expectations and then only teach them how to be good students at the expense of all social development.
All these kids go into the world thinking that being good at math or memorization is 95% of what it takes to be successful when in reality it’s like 10% intellect and 90% social ability.
The worst part is that these kids usually aren’t even extra smart, they just have more involved parents.
It always ends up that the kid with infinite potential lives up to none of it and has a massive ego complex because they got gaslit into believing their parents pipedreams were realistic and that it’s their fault for not living up to them.
Edit: It’s really funny all the former gifted kids are taking this as a personal attack.
I don’t think that it’s just the gifted kid programs that are causing these issues, I think it’s more foundational than that.
So much of school is focused on rote memorization, test scores, and grades that kids who do well end up having their entire sense of self-worth tied to their grades. Then they get out into the real world and no longer have those academic scores to tell them that they have any value.
It’s how we get stuff like this:
There’s so much more in this discussion like how kids who never are challenged by schoolwork don’t actually learn how to learn and therefore give up on something at the first hint of difficulty or challenge because their brain is conditioned to believe that either you’re instantly good at a thing or you’re a failure forever, or how there’s a real lack of teaching collaborative work in school despite that being like 90% of work in life, but that’s all too much for my tired brain to try to piece together into a comprehensible message. So instead I’ll just end with my usual meme on the subject: Beware, the “gifted kid to burnout trans girl with a praise kink” pipeline is real.
1000x this.
I’m not going to mess up my kid the same way I got messed up.
I’m going to find a new and novel approach that will despite my best intentions mess him up in new and novel ways
Hey, that level of self awareness is way more than what the people who forced these shit programs had.
Nobody gets out of childhood unscathed or unscarred but having parents who actually listen goes a long way to reducing the pain.
Im not sure you are correct as no one was telling us we would be successful because of these classes when I was in them.
What we DID miss out on was seeing kids learn how to do things we already knew. This would have been very helpful when I got to the point where I didnt immediately understand the lesson and found myself having to learn how to do things years after most kids learn how to be taught to.
The real problem IMO is watching others learn is useful to the process of learning and taking the kids who know the lesson out of the room deprives them of this experience which in the long run creates other problems.
That’s only fair until you consider you may be depriving the accelerated kid of opportunities just for the point of keeping them in the class to inspire others.
In my case being in the accelerated class meant I never learned how to learn and when at 13 I suddenly didn’t immediately understand literally everything in class from the get-go I didn’t know what to do. I never experienced that before. I could read and write in paragraphs at 3 I didn’t watch my peers learn and it was a rough go for a while.
It was cool to have my critical thinking skills developed earlier, as that’s what we did with accelerated students in my town, but IMO I personally might have benefitted by remaining in the class to see how kids learned.
Personally, I can’t say I experienced any of that. Especially the “extra involved parents” part.
I was in gifted programs from K-12. Turns out hyperlexia is now a well known indicator of autism.
From what I remember it was like 30% autistic kids, 60% helicopter parents and like 10% kids from international schools who were just light years ahead of everyone else.
I think it can be done right but not in an education system that’s so fundamentally shit to begin with.
That may be true for some lines of work like sales, but something like software engineering is closer to 10% social ability and 90% technical ability.
If you want to ever move up in your career that’ll have to change because engineering advancement inherently means becoming management.
The unfortunate reality is that we live in a collaborative world and if you can’t collaborate then you will not go far.
It doesn’t matter if you’re the smartest person in the world if you’re also the most easily ignored.
One person can only do so much especially when they’re competing with people who aren’t alone.
Not necessarily, at the company I work for, they have two advancement tracks for engineers: management and individual contributor. The individual contributor track goes something like associate engineer -> engineer -> senior engineer -> principal engineer with a bunch of different sub-tiers in those with raises associated with them. Yeah, you cap out at principal engineer, but at that point, you have a good salary and equity and would be considered a success by most metrics.
Yes any work is going to require collaboration, but that doesn’t necessarily require a lot of social skills. Even the most socially awkward person can explain technical requirements to a colleague and ask them to implement them. There’s a difference between communication skills and social skills, and success in academics requires good communication skills.
I’m not saying social skills aren’t valuable, I’m just saying they aren’t required to succeed in this current capitalist economy.
Ehhh, to each their own. I was in those classes, fully separated streams. No idea why you’d assume having a more interesting class would nix social development. (You can’t learn to socialize if the teacher doesn’t have to slow down?)
Fully wide range of outcomes but a lot of the kids with the potential went and realized it. Sure, not all of us did but from my small circle one’s on the second highest court in Canada, one’s set up a reasonably famous company, one’s a cardiac surgeon etc.
When do you talk to to other kids if not during class? Lunch was for study group, where we didn’t talk, and we didn’t get free periods or anything because it was just more class.
But the gifted class also has kids in it who talk to you.
I’m talking about school in the US, I’m not sure how Canadian schools are structured.
In my school, they pulled all the “smart” kids(most just had parents who did 90% of the work) out of normal classes, gave them 2-3x the workload and moved the coursework up by half a grade.
I’m sure there are better programs but widely that’s how things were for American gifted students.
Many of the people I knew in those programs either turned out average or did extremely poorly because they had a massive ego with no social skills.
It’s to the point where I feel like the people who became successful were successful in spite of the gifted program and the people who turned out to be failures did so because of the gifted program.
It will be different in different places but this has been my experience in the US.
In the same way American schools aren’t representative of Canadian schools - your experience at one American school isn’t representative of all American schools. Maybe cut back on the blanket statements about American schools.
Yes thank you for reiterating for me that I’m talking about American schools. Because as I stated I am talking about American schools.
In case anyone didn’t know I’m talking about American schools, as in not non-american schools.
Well, going by your literacy, I’m gonna guess you weren’t in the gifted classes. Completely misread what I said.
No I read it, it’s a pointless uhm ackshully
It’s pointless to point out that your singular experience at one school isn’t indicative of American schools at large? Knowing there are other people who have their own experiences in the world is a critical development stage you should have reached by now.
You know, everyone else in this thread has come with levelheaded replies sharing their experiences with gifted programs, and it’s a mix of some schools who did it right and others who did it wrong. All you’ve replied with is obstinate vitriol. Starting to think you’re just jealous you didn’t make it into the gifted programs…
Bro it’s called having an opinion. Go touch some fucking grass if you can’t handle someone online having an opinion based on their experiences.
Instead of all these random gifted programs that are all or nothing, we need to start treating earlier grades like high school where some students take advanced classes and others do the bare minimum.
This is such a horrible take. Gifted programs offer accelerated offerings for children who are so goddamn bored in normal level classes. They allow people who to get ahead, give additional opportunity for faster advancement, and really don’t even separate kids that much.
Everyone is goddamn bored in school. It’s school.
To put it longer “bored and taking a year of schooling in an already fully understood subject where the teacher spends 3x as long as necessary on each topic”.
‘That much’ is a sliding scale. A kid can be removed from class for a few hours a week, or per day, or altogether and put in programs at special schools.
Outside of grade skipping, the majority of gifted programs are stem(not that there isn’t lit gifted, but they tend to start later), I don’t think being fully accelerated out of your classes is a common “gifted” experience.
The variation is extensive across the incredibly uneven landscape of school districts for sure.
Literally everyone is bored in normal level classes. Most of us just express it by getting bad grades so we’re excluded from the gifted stuff.
Nah I know way too many losers who are still talking about how much potential they had 15 years ago.
Having kids pulled into entirely separate classrooms is pretty dang separated so IDK what you’re on about.
Those programs just blow smoke up kids asses and set them up to fail.
So? There’s also a ton of kids who did actually leverage that to get through college faster and do well. Bitchy people gonna bitch. Gifted program didn’t accelerate my progress in life, but it certainly did help me not sit there bored in a low level math class all day with people who couldn’t or didn’t care to do basic equations.
Sounds like you just want to feel superior to people.
Having a massive ego without anything to show for it is a common symptom of “former gifted” kids.
Believe it or not, some people are more interested in academics than others, and catering to allow that is a net positive to society…
Being bored in lower level math classes is reality. It’s not a hypothetical
There’s a difference between catering to academic interests and making a narcissist boot camp for the children of overly ambitious parents.
It’s not hypothetical that these “gifted” programs don’t really have better outcomes in terms of making kids engaged with academics.
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.3102/01623737211008919?__cf_chl_tk=gnysh5ogzqmxq5zeh3fnugjfyjlahx6q2cnxbzxadd8-1760030934-1.0.1.1-1v6fhgnw9_xc8v9gozbdcjibfgxp7q8p9fltjtdav4k
Imo it’s obvious that these programs aren’t for the kids, they’re for the overactive and insecure parents.
Now the “former gifted” bullshit is so ingrained in people’s identity that any criticism of the program is perceived as a direct attack.
The criticism in question is not “any” criticism, it’s an implication that such programs should be fully removed. There’s plenty of valid criticism to be had, like letting parents force their kids into these programs without proper testing, or the socioeconomic disparities that are present in such programs.
Your source is not available through my college, and it’s locked behind a paywall. Without being able to read beyond the abstract, it seems to be focused on early year including kindergarten gifted programs, rather than a more generalized take that includes middle school and highschool.
If it’s just elementary school, I will agree that gifted programs loss of socialization can be much more important even for those small time periods. However, your source does not seem to be making a general statement of all gifted programs.
It’s really funny that you consider my opinion that the programs suck as an endorsement to fully remove them. I never said that.
I’m not going to argue with a bunch of shit you imagine I said or with you moving the goalpost about specific ages of enrollment.
When I talk about the programs why wouldn’t I be including all of them?
It really seems like you’re taking any criticism of the program as criticism of you.