I got matched with a girl on Tinder and I started the convo. All I got were one line answers like “yup”, “nope”, “haha”. Then we matched again on a different dating app. I chatted to her again but she never responded.
I get that dating apps can be daunting for many people, but we matched twice so clearly we are into each other. But really, make more effort than just giving one line responses or being matched again and not replying. That experience was more annoying than being ghosted or never getting any matches at all.
Tbh I would attribute this to someone just having poor literacy. Many people have a surprisingly serious struggle with reading or writing. If you ever have had to listen to an adult read something aloud, when they aren’t someone who does a lot of reading for work? Slow, choppy, awkward, wrong inflection. You can tell they’re literally taking it one word at a time, they aren’t scanning the sentence ahead while reading. They do it word by word, storing each word in their mental RAM, and then discover the meaning of the sentence only at the end by reviewing that buffer. Then they pause as they internalize it and repeat the process. It’s an exquisitely painful thing to watch. A LOT more people read like this than literate people think.
‘You’re not getting good matches because people are illiterate.’ Has to be a new one.
Maybe. But also take a look at yourself and your conversation skills. Maybe everyone is illiterate, or maybe that person wasn’t that into you, or maybe you’re not that interesting to talk to, or maybe it should wasn’t a good day for them.
The genuine advice I can give around this to you, or anyone else reading this is to read this for what it is. She may be busy, if she’s interested, she’ll message later. But it is also very possible she just wants someone to give her attention, and beating yourself up over someone being inconsiderate towards you. If she’s interested, she’ll talk, fighting or begging for someone who won’t fight back for you isn’t taking care of yourself.
Oh yeah, I am not beating myself for it. I know it’s on her. There are plenty of fishes in the sea, but some folks hold on to one person they barely even know. I have chatted and dated other girls after and had better time. I just thought it was a weird encounter and explained to the person I replied to, that the one word/line responses are genuinely irritating regardless of whatever reasons as to why the person was doing it.
Yeah, no, you’re absolutely right. It’s ok to just complain that people don’t reciprocate in a discussion. It’s annoying and when I’m dictator, it will be punishable by fine or imprisonment.
I got matched with a girl on Tinder and I started the convo. All I got were one line answers like “yup”, “nope”, “haha”. Then we matched again on a different dating app. I chatted to her again but she never responded.
I get that dating apps can be daunting for many people, but we matched twice so clearly we are into each other. But really, make more effort than just giving one line responses or being matched again and not replying. That experience was more annoying than being ghosted or never getting any matches at all.
Tbh I would attribute this to someone just having poor literacy. Many people have a surprisingly serious struggle with reading or writing. If you ever have had to listen to an adult read something aloud, when they aren’t someone who does a lot of reading for work? Slow, choppy, awkward, wrong inflection. You can tell they’re literally taking it one word at a time, they aren’t scanning the sentence ahead while reading. They do it word by word, storing each word in their mental RAM, and then discover the meaning of the sentence only at the end by reviewing that buffer. Then they pause as they internalize it and repeat the process. It’s an exquisitely painful thing to watch. A LOT more people read like this than literate people think.
‘You’re not getting good matches because people are illiterate.’ Has to be a new one. Maybe. But also take a look at yourself and your conversation skills. Maybe everyone is illiterate, or maybe that person wasn’t that into you, or maybe you’re not that interesting to talk to, or maybe it should wasn’t a good day for them.
But nah. It must be everyone is illiterate.
The genuine advice I can give around this to you, or anyone else reading this is to read this for what it is. She may be busy, if she’s interested, she’ll message later. But it is also very possible she just wants someone to give her attention, and beating yourself up over someone being inconsiderate towards you. If she’s interested, she’ll talk, fighting or begging for someone who won’t fight back for you isn’t taking care of yourself.
Oh yeah, I am not beating myself for it. I know it’s on her. There are plenty of fishes in the sea, but some folks hold on to one person they barely even know. I have chatted and dated other girls after and had better time. I just thought it was a weird encounter and explained to the person I replied to, that the one word/line responses are genuinely irritating regardless of whatever reasons as to why the person was doing it.
Yeah, no, you’re absolutely right. It’s ok to just complain that people don’t reciprocate in a discussion. It’s annoying and when I’m dictator, it will be punishable by fine or imprisonment.
yup