• scbasteve7@lemm.ee
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    1 month ago

    I’m pretty fucking autistic, and I’ve never used nose blindness as an excuse to carry my stink out of my house.

    Now to be clear, I’ve also dealt with depression, and my environment has not always been the cleanest. I have had a depression den in the past. But I always put an effort into separating my clean clothes from my room stink, and making sure I always showered before I left the house.

    But I also have the high masking flavor of autism, so maybe that’s why that level of effort has come naturally.

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      1 month ago

      You didn’t, somebody else did. Or maybe you didn’t know it. Or maybe you have such a metabolism. Whatever.

      But I always put an effort into separating my clean clothes from my room stink, and making sure I always showered before I left the house.

      There is a huge space called depression, in some parts of it people can shower, in some other parts of it people can’t leave the bed.

      But I also have the high masking flavor of autism, so maybe that’s why that level of effort has come naturally.

      “Masking” and “natural” kinda contradict each other.

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        “Masking” and “natural” kinda contradict each other

        No they literally don’t. It is in my nature to mask. Whether it’s engrained in me since childhood, or it’s part of my DNA, I only know how to mask, and it’s very difficult for me not to. It’s MY nature, it’s natural to me. I do not make a conscious effort to mask.

        Also for your first point, I typed out a whole article, realized it was preachy and entitled, then deleted it. Tbh, I probably shouldnt have made the comment at all. But Ive been fortunate enough that my depression never affected my need to shower. I attribute that to my autistic nature of 1) masking and 2) routine. Whether that’s the truth or not idk.

        The point I was trying to make, and failed to do so, was that autism comes in many flavors. Mine apparently does the opposite of yours where I’m very self conscious about how I look, sound, and smell. I am confident that I don’t stink and I’m not nose blind to it cause I am so worried that I don’t smell pleasant, that I constantly take additional measures to fit in just like everyone else would.