like “supporting” someone with adhd but hating them and believing they should be shunned or treated differently for interrupting others, not paying attention, and not being able to sit still, rather than try to help them or tell them not to interrupt the conversation.
or “supporting” deaf people but getting mad because they only talk sign language and can’t hear what you say.
I have quite a few disorders and i’ve been talked abt and treated like shit for it, and not just because I have the disorder but because im different. I don’t fit in anywhere and never will.
all of my “friends” talk shit abt me and my disabilities, and then one person is always like “oh yeah, this person said this about you and they hate that you can’t pay attention, and that person says you should jump off a cliff!”
Yes, what the fuck
Yes, its ableist. Excluding, insulting or discriminating against people for disability is basically the definition, reguardless of what they claim. Saying they’re not ableist doesn’t change it, any more than saying something like, “I’m not racist, but…”
Even if they’re a psychotic, narcissistic, abusive piece of human garbage?
No.
I’d you dislike them for those reasons and not because they’re disabled that’s fine. Disabled people can be bad people too
I think it’s reasonable for someone to get frustrated when someone has a disability, but only if that frustration doesn’t negatively affect one’s behavior. First and foremost, the disabled person deserves to be treated and respected as a person.
When someone says TO SOMEONE ELSE they hate the fact that you can’t pay attention, maybe they’re only venting, or making a reasonable complaint. Are they still friendly on other occasions? Then your friendship is worth enough to them that they’re willing to tolerate the drawbacks. It may not seem like it at first, but that could be more of a compliment than anything. Actions really do speak louder than words.
The “jump off a cliff” remark is concerning, though. That’s not an okay thing to say, or even think. I’d recommend avoiding that person - but who’s telling you this shit? Are they a reliable source? How trustworthy can they be if they’re spreading nasty gossip about things that were said to them in private? It’s possible that they’re lying, or exaggerating.
Give people some slack, but not so much that you’re letting them treat you badly. Friendships are valuable. Don’t let the bad overshadow the good. Nobody, no matter how “perfect” they seem, has infinite patience. They also can’t possibly know what it’s like to be you.
It’s ok to dislike someone or not want to be their friend for any reason, but that doesn’t mean it’s okay to be cruel. Everyone deserves rights, that’s what rights are.
You need better friends. It sounds like you’re probably fairly young. Dunno if that’s true, but young people can be real shitheads who talk about each other behind their backs. I did that when I was in my teens and maybe early twenties. If that’s the case, know that most people grow out of that phase. If you’re older than I’m guessing, maybe try to explore how to make friends with people who are more mature. I’m afraid I don’t have pithy advice on that.
A woman tried to beat me up because of my disability and currently hates me. Rather than talking to me, she wishes death on me because of my mental issues (learning disability and social anxiety). She is currently ignoring me, but threatened me and is trying to figure out ways to hurt or kill me. She is supposedly “great” and “helpful”, but horrible to people like me, and only great towards people without my issues. Those who are “normal” are treated with all the kindness in the world.
File a restraining order.
Come on guys, this is bait. Lmao
Seems more like a rant to me, or someone being gaslit.
