I wouldn’t say it’s lost. If the relationship has good communication, the poster can simply explain to their girlfriend what happened. Hopefully, this can then just be a funny story to tell, perhaps at their eventual potential wedding.
The experience can be taken by those in the relationship to not mean anything other than that the girlfriend is not opposed to marriage. The poster can choose to not discuss their feelings on marriage, other than that this was unintentional and they’re not ready yet. Then the relationship can develop as it would normally.
However, it’s true that a lot of what I’m suggesting depends on the details of OP’s relationship. Not knowing them, their situation, their relationship or their views on marriage, it is not impossible that this could cause problems.
Just say “That’s lot from me, that’s from Jose, the immigrant trapped in a sobe factory who is being enslaved by Pepsi Co under threat of deportation, and needs a marriage visa so he can pursue his dream of becoming a tailor. If you want to marry Jose, go ahead.”
I wouldn’t say it’s lost. If the relationship has good communication, the poster can simply explain to their girlfriend what happened. Hopefully, this can then just be a funny story to tell, perhaps at their eventual potential wedding.
The experience can be taken by those in the relationship to not mean anything other than that the girlfriend is not opposed to marriage. The poster can choose to not discuss their feelings on marriage, other than that this was unintentional and they’re not ready yet. Then the relationship can develop as it would normally.
However, it’s true that a lot of what I’m suggesting depends on the details of OP’s relationship. Not knowing them, their situation, their relationship or their views on marriage, it is not impossible that this could cause problems.
Just say “That’s lot from me, that’s from Jose, the immigrant trapped in a sobe factory who is being enslaved by Pepsi Co under threat of deportation, and needs a marriage visa so he can pursue his dream of becoming a tailor. If you want to marry Jose, go ahead.”